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I'm grossed out
So people understand, I'm 17 and my brother is 15. This past Sunday I was in my room getting ready to take a shower. I heard a noise from my brother's closet (his closet shares a wall with my room) but figured my brother was just doing something there, and went about my business. After my shower I came back to my room and started getting ready for bed. As I was putting on my underwear I heard a noise again in my brother's closet like a moan. I don't know why, but I felt wierd. After I put on my pj's I looked at the wall and saw a small hole about seven feet up the wall. On Monday afternnon I went into my brother's closet and saw the hole. My brother can see almost my entire room. It was him I heard spyong on me on Sunday.
I come from a very religious Jewish family. My brother was always very religious. He even has private Jewish studies teachers to learn more than he gets in school. I can't believe he would do such a thing. When I think about how he's seen me undressed and doing very private things, things no one knows I've done, I get sick to my stomach. I don't know what to do. Sould I talk my parents, should I confront my brother? My parents probably won't believe he ever spied on me because he's such a good kid and I don't want to have that kind of discussion with my brother about what he did and saw. I can't talk to teacher or friends about this because I might have to admit to doing those private things. But I feel like i'm going to explode
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Wow, you have every right to feel grossed out, and really confused about why he would do that. although i usualy dont talk about other columist answers, i have to tell you i dont think you should try to get revenge on him. i dont know how religious you are, (im studying judaism for converson) and i dont think thats morally right. that will not fix how you feel about it. i would take the time to think about what bugged you about it (you have plenty of reasons im sure) and i would talk to your brother about it. i wouldnt straight out ask him if he did it, because that can make him become very defensive and he may not help you. So after you tell him what you know happened, you might ask him if he has anything to say to you, and tell him that you still love him but that it was not an okay thing to do. I would not talk to your parents right away because, like you said they may start to defend him without listening to it all, and it can start a triangle of gossip. I really hope it works out.
and definetly cover the hole.
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If you don't want to talk about it, you dont have too. But you should. If you don't, put a poster in your room over the hole..
Hope this helps!
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get back at him. They say revenge never works but what ever. I tell you if my little brother was ever caught doing anything like that with me i would get even. He would be waking up with bruises and broken limbs. It is probably because he is hormonal and what not. When you hear the moaning noise, shove something through the hole to stab him in the eye. Or do a stake out in his room and scare him when he least expects it
or if you dont want to get revenge, cover up the hole...
-hayley
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