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wtf how do i react to all of this
so i just recently sent in a question about my bf that broke up with me and said sorry i found a new girl... well we broke up and i texted him and he freaked and said he never wanted to talk to me then tonight he got drunk texted me adn then called me and said he just said all the mean stuff to me because he thinks i have changed and wants me to be the same again and he wanted to show me how he felt when i broke up with him for my ex ... even tho we got back together after that he was still hurt. it was a long time ago kinda. and he said that he loved me. im really confused on how to take this .. wat about the girl he likes aparently and why is it all of a sudden after all the things he said that he says he loves me. then i sent him a text to see if he got home safe from the party cuz he was afraid of wrecking and he never answered. wat does this mean and is he just playing a game
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You made one mistake and now that has snow balled. The one mistake you made was getting back with him. Life is never what it was, it always moves forward and people who won't let you grow are always trouble.
When you truly love someone, you don't try to change them, you let them change. I have never owned my wife and she has never owned me, too many people out there have this idea that they do own a person once they are an item. We have never made each other make our decisions, only tried to influence them, but once the choice was made, it was made, never an I told you so.
People who let others decide who they are lead bitter, spiteful, resent filled lives, is that what you want your life to be? Though you may continue your whole life with this person, your growth as a couple and as a person stops and you start to think, "is this all there is". Not only does this have a negative effect on you, but it denies your partner from knowing who you really are and worse yet, yourself from knowing who you really are. You were growing beyond him and he didn't like it, this happens to most people who drink. He wants you to stop and not grow along with him.
The mental growth of a person stops at the point where they become a heavy drinker, a fact most people don't know. As long as they use alcohol in excesses, they will not grow any further. That is what makes it so hard to get a person off of it, not the addiction. (Sorry AA.) Break it off with him and never allow someone else to keep you from learning and changing, make sure you learn the right lessons though.
Sorry to contradict, but people do not say what they really believe when they are drunk, they are more prone to say what they think will manipulate a person into what they want. This is why they will often say cruel things, to get what they desirer.
Alcohol is a mood enhancer, so if they wanted sex coming into the night, it will enhance that to the point of desperation, as an example and they will do, or say anything to get it. That is why so many people cheat when they are drunk. So never drink when you want sex, keep the two separate, unless you are drinking with the one you love.
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I went through something like this and to be honest with you, I had been going through it for 17 years. In and out, up and down, back, front it's a roller coaster - If you don't stop the cycle now, it will go on for a long time. It is obvious to me that you still love and have feelings for him. The fact that he was drunk says alot too. I think he is going through some things in his life and turning to the bottle for comfort, reason and/or answer. He seems very confused which is causing you confusion in yourself.
If you are going to be confused, be confused due to your thought not because of someone else's actions, words, or decisions. Find yourself and take time out for you without his involvement.
The tit fot tat game is childish and once started if not ended it goes on and on and someone always will have some point to prove instead of proving what counts the most - Love, trust, respect, appreciation, dedication, happinesss and certainty not confusion. Yes, the whole thing is a game - game does recognize game - but as we all grow older so do the games!That's when the games are all played out!
Love yourself, Find yourself. ALLOW yourself time to heal becasue you too have been hurt and still are hurting now.
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drunk people tell the truth.
but when drunk people are sober they put up a front. meaning they may feel that way down inside but dont want it to be
maybe hes just scared to get hurt
txt him saying that he told you things when he was drunk and you want to talk about it with him
then he'll probably want to talk because he will either a)want to know what he said because he doesnt remember. or b)see what you have to say because he remembers but wants to pretend he doesnt.
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