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I'm so confused.


Question Posted Thursday May 15 2008, 12:25 am

I feel completely stupid for saying this, but I cant stand myself. I mean I hate the way I look. I hate like everything about me. Well okay not everything, because I love the way I think like i know i'm intelligant and stuff but I litteraly hate myself. I dont feel like I have any true friends and I hate myself more for saying that because I have a best friends that I can tell mostly everything except this kind of stuff. (This is probably really confusing)I feel like my inteeligance is the only thing that I have to live for. I know that probably sounds stupid too. I'm just so confused right now and and hurt and it sounds pathetic but like no one cares about me and like i have no control over my life cause everytime i try to make my self a little more at the very least likable i cant seem to do it. I think about just ending things alot like just giving up on everything or something but i feel like i'm meant for something. I dont know i'm so confused right now. I just dont know.

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Jeepman2_98 answered Friday May 16 2008, 12:35 am:
Deep thought:

One day they will be a generation born without a soul;
That means you will not have the abilty to hate;
So you think you are lost now, what will you be when this happens?
We are suppose to hate nothing..
So evil has planted the seed of hate in you,
Intelligence is Knoweldge;
Knoweldge is Power.
Only those who have this will survive til the end.
SO why would you waste that precious gift?
Get rid of the seed of hate and if you can't then use it to your advantage not your disadvantage.
Hate the things that you should have done,
Not hate the things your doing right now or will do.
For all the things that you hate that you should have done, you can not change because it has done passed. If it has done passed it souldn't matter anymore.
NO need in giving up, why? because you really don't give up. It only moves you to the next level and you will be at the bottom instead of the top with all that intelligence you threw away.

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tashiiexxboo answered Thursday May 15 2008, 5:19 pm:
well, you seem a mess. but girl who isnt at times. whose never felt like this before. im not here to tell you everyone goes through this, buh practically everyone does. i sure have. just because you dont have everything you want dosent mean you still dont have it all. you dont have to see the beauty in things to realize how wonderful you are inside. dont hate the way you look, its the most imangetive sucidie ever ! if you cant love urself, how can you ever love at all. your lucky to see how smart you are ! stop sayin you dont know, you do know , you just dont have all the facts staright. and imange if you did ? life wouldnt be so fun and enchanting, so take time knowing yourself..believe me you'll see all the greatness in you soon enough <3 life takes timee to see the great things -if it didnt then it wouldntt be so great when it happened :]

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es answered Thursday May 15 2008, 6:09 am:
ok well if you think no one cares about you then my comment and the comments under mine wouldn't be on here.
i understand you feel like the only thing you have is your intelligence, BUT from what you're saying about you not having true friends and actually having a best friend has to somehow make you question whether or not you're thinking about things the right way.
and if you feel you have no control over your life cause then you are absolutely wrong. it is always up to you as long as you decide what you want and go for it. and i'm sure you are meant for a lot of things but haven't realized it. for instance, this best friend of yours... you have a meaning to be with that person and be their best friend because that best friend needs you. and if the friend didn't need you, you wouldn't have been best friends.
and stop questioning yourself please!!! don't say things sound "pathetic" if that's not how you feel.

IM me if you wanna talk
xxes25

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GilbertMar answered Thursday May 15 2008, 2:20 am:
Wow, slow down a bit here and think about what you're saying. In my day the hippies would tell you to look inward and find yourself, you know, that enlightenment crap. But you know, the first thing that went out the window with that generation was religion, (think about that for a second). They taught peace and love, yet turned their back on the one thing that makes us whole, the belief in something greater then yourself. You know this, your words say so, you feel it in your gut. It is the human animal within you that hates, that gut feeling you have is the spiritual being that is what you truly are inside. It does not hate; it wants you to see what you really are. Hating ones self is not bad nor wrong, it is where you need to be at this moment, it is what will bring you to change and become who you really are and want to be. Intelligence will keep you from doing harm and it will bring you to understand that what is put before you is done for reason. Learn and grow, become stronger, then embrace the person you become.

Be well fellow spirit

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pyromantix answered Thursday May 15 2008, 1:14 am:
*internet hug*
take a deep breath.

stop.

take a step back and look at yourself.
you're human.
so is everyone else.
the only thing that seperates us from eachother is our attitude and our perception.
"cool" is not a look or a gene. it's an aura.
the world is not small. life is not short.
there is so much out there to see and do and acieve: there are so many people who don't know your name or what your deal is.

here's a trick i learned when writing college essays: you have to explain who you are and why you're special, different from the rest, in as few words as possible. you have to know yourself. first impressions are lasting and they're made fast, and you're the one in control of that.

put yourself out there.

no one will be okay with who you are unless you are confident in yourself.

you are an individual: it doesn't matter how cliche that sounds or how many times you've heard it before: it's true. there is no one else in the universe just like you. you're special. you've got something to offer. but no one will ever know it unless you get some backbone and explain yourself.

why should anyone care about you? you're the only one who can answer that. good friends and acceptance don't fall out of the sky out of pity.

you're better than this. now pick yourself up and go do something rather than moping around in a depressing stupor of solitude.

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