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ASSHOLE ALERT
okay so there is this boy named john, he has a girlfriend named shelby. theyve been on and off for 3 years. so while they were on a break me and him started to talk,(bf gfish) so i was really starting to like him , and he would always tell me he liked me. so me and john were getting pretty serious but then one day he randomly went back to his ex? so i was pretty pissed and hurt. so while he was wit her hes like im only w/ her so she doesnt go w. other guys. and yeah so we still flirted. and then they broke up again. so we startd talkin again. then he got a girlfriend again. and hes like i made such a mistake and i really want you and blah. he tells my friends this all the time. and hes always thinkin about me and brings me up to shleby. so ya recently the pas few nights i was thinking well fuck this im not waiting for him to be done w. shelby. so me and my ex starteed to talk and i started liking him again. so me and trey were talkin and shit so then he asked me back out and isaid yes. so then i go on aim in the morning and see i have an im from john sayin .. "wow you jus get a man like that? well i cant be mad since i did the same thing..hope it works out." wich i could tell it was SO fake. so i was like watever you ddi that to me twice and i never got mad at you. and hes like ight watever i was like okay shove that fake watever up your ass so then hes like okay i will then i was like i dont get it i did nothing to you and we werent guna work out since your never going to leave shelby. and i havent talked to him since that
but its like i totally rather be with john then trey but its like im not guna be his rebound and shit and wait for them to be over?
like shelbys a bitch
she flirts with tons of guys
and shes cheated on him before
she hits him all the time
and he forgives her EVERYTIME
ugh wat should i do? =(
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hes in the situation where he wants you and he wants shelby to want him. so heres what you do. show him he needs to choose.
tell him you like him a lot and youll go out with him only if he stops seeing shelby for good. if he flirts with her, dump him.
best of luck!
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ugh,
tell him how you really feel.
[[john]]
see what he says.
then tell him that if you go out with him.
tell him that you're not gonna be his rebound.
tell him that you care about him.
and that you still like him.
just talk to him.
=D
hope i helped.
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Have some fun with Trey. Stop speaking too, texting, chating with or otherwise awknowledging John's existance. He'll only cause more drama. It is all that he does. It makes him feel special.
It doesn't matter, at all, how much of a bitch Shelby is. Her lying, cheating, asshole of a boyfriend John obviously wants her. They are clearly made for one another.
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Totally forget about this loser.
To be blunt, John was stringing you along so that when he simply could not find a better girlfriend (more attractive or whatever he feels is oh so very important) he would settle for you for awhile. I say for awhile because he, most likely, wouldn't have stayed with you (he thinks very lowly of you) if he could find someone better. He told you things like he made mistakes being other people so that you would wait for him, him not honestly meaning what he was saying.
In his eyes you are a desperate girl who he could pick up and drop whenever he wanted. He could easily use you for whatever he'd like--attention, sex, money, whatever he feels he could pull from you. He figured that his current relationship wouldn't last so he would tell you pretty little things to keep you hanging on. He isn't really wanting you, Dear Friend, he only wants what you can offer when he gets "desperate" enough for you.
He's only upset because you were his back-up plan for life and you moved on from waiting for him to fail at other relationships. He never had any intention of actually being with you or he would have been with you, plain and simple. He put other girls before you more than once, proving that you meant absolutely nothing to him. In his eyes, you're easy and desperate so he could simply string you along until he needed some service from you.
The reason he kept taking his ex-girlfriend back is his issue. She may be pretty and he feels she is the best eye-candy he can get out there. She may be good in bed or easy and he knows his sexual needs will be met. Whatever it is, it's all about him in relationships--he doesn't really care what the other person thinks about things. This is why he can easily take someone back after they've cheated--because he has no real emotional attachment to them to be hurt by.
He isn't worth your time. Any guy that strings you along like that is sincerely a piece of trash. Move on and forget about him. Heck, if I were you, I'd completely cut off contact with him since I wouldn't want such a low-life in my life. You're better than him. Don't settle for dirt like this.
I hope I've opened your eyes to a couple of things you overlooked before. I'm sorry I was harsh but I really had to be blunt because I hate to see things like this happening and nobody being honest to the person that is being hurt!
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