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i envy the way some people can make eye contact with someone while they are talking and still be able to concentrate on what the person is saying AND be able to think about what they said, and then come up with a response. I CANT DO THAT! i am pretty much infamous for asking people to repeat what they said a lot of the time.
whenever i make eye contact i focus on their eyes instead of what they are actually saying..and then when they finish what they said i have to ask them to repeat it. i also noticed that sometimes i am kind of a slow thinker i guess, like a lot of times i realize that im just staring at a place but not really thinking.
this is bothering me, especially the eye contact thing. i need advice on how to look @ people but FOCUS on what they are saying and be able to think about what they said. WITHOUT freaking them out.
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ohkay. heres what you do! practise practise practise, I too sometimes have this problem when looking into the eyes of a beauty. OH! something you could do is look the person right in between their eyes. so your not looking directly into their eyes but they dont notice that your not looking them straight in the eyes. this way you'll be able to concentrate on what they are saying =)
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I used to have the same issue. The problem is not your or your mind it is your comprehensive skills. A way to develop them more is by reading books, newspapers, etc. Reading helps you retain what you are listening to because when you read you are reciting the words in your head. If you can learn how to comprehend what you are reading at kinds of different levels of reading it will dramatically change when you are talking to a person. Your mind will see as you retaining what you are hearing like when you mind hears you saying the words of a book in your head. Another thing is to focus on what they saying first then once you have that nailed down then start giving them eye cntact. You have to train yourself to do one then the other before you can do both at the same time.
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