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My boyfriend kept this from me.
I was with someone for a year and a half. I met someone so much more wonderful and a few weeks after konwing him and spending time with him I broke up with my boyfriend out of the blue because I couldnt ignore what I was feeling for this new boy. It was clearly a mistake to jump right into a relationship and have sex a week later. I felt too uncomfortable with it so I confronted my ex boyfriend because I felt that he should know because I still cared about him. He forgave me and we started dating again but three days later we broke up and I was with my new boy again. That was the last time I ever dated my ex boyfriend. Ever since Me and my new boyfriend have been on and off mostly because of the reason of me not being completely over my ex. My ex was my first for everything and I shared an obsessive love with him. I grew close to my ex every now and then but only realizing how unattracted I was to him and how selfish he was. I no longer had feelings for him. My boyfriend was hurting and was confused as was I. I love my boyfriend but I recently found out he was doing pretty much the same thing to me. For his sake I stopped talking to my ex even though I had no feelings for him anymore. About a month ago around my birthday during one of our fights he called his ex and told her that he wanted to have sex with her. Called her right after he was masterbating. Ive done similar but not to the extent of telling anyone i wanted to have sex with them. Whenever I did anything wrong I would go straight to him and tell him. He kept this from me and the only reason I found out was because his ex girlfriend got into the picture again and slipped saying it while she was drunk. It hurts. Not only that I just moved away a few weeks ago to a new state and since then hes stolen things and got in trouble and had some beers. If I did anything like that he would yell at me and make me feel so low for it. Hes being unfair. I saw a picture of him and his ex together naked. All I have are bad images. To think he told me he loved me the day after he talked to her. I dont know what to do in this situation.
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all i have to tell you is if your still dating this guy, well you should brake up with him. because what hes doing to you is not right, u should tell him that the more that u started hanging out with your x that you relized that you don't love him any more and that he was a jerk and you want to be with him(your bf)but if he doesn't know what to say or says yea thats ok or he still is doing the things behind your back honey you need to break up with him.
samantha bedford
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o.k. yes big issue
and i understand where you would be confused and all
i would have to say yeah you love this guy maybe
but either tell him how you feel and let him know what's going on and your feelings
also maybe he don't need to be with anyone if all he wants is sex
i don't think it was right for him to go to his ex after you guys were done
thats if i'm understanding this right!
but yeah all you can do is tell him how you feel and then give him his space
it may be hard but its a good idea
you don't need to be around all that
theres more fish out in the
don't ever relay yourself just on one guy
I'm sure theres one perfect some one out there for you thats waiting to take care of you and love you
and when the time comes maybe your ex will show up and say he's sorry
but right now you don't need to go through that
and also maybe all these girls that like him need to know how he is and what he wants.
yeah it's very hard to get over a guy when your totally in love with them
but theres plenty of guys around that wouldlove to be with you and not treat you like or make yuo go through that..
i hope this will help a bit..
and i'm sorry
it sounds as you have your hands full here..
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YOU ARE WAY TO GOOD FOR THIS GUYYY!!
if anyone is making you feel bad or putting you in uncomfertable situations...is it worth it?
are the good times so good that they make up for all the bad times?
You can still have feelings for both guys, but i think that this new guy may be bad. as much as you want to think that hes super nice and sweet...for someone to go that low as to cheat on you is rediculous. You don't need to get back together with your ex, but you need to stop your relationship with this guy. if your feelings are that strong to where you don't want to stop it and you want to try and make it work...then this is what i would suggest.
First, you need to confront him about all the stuff that hes doing. And make sure that he knows that even if your not there your gonna find out. Long distance relationships are HARD.
But quite frankly, I don't think this guy can even having a relationship with a girl who he lived next door from! He might be a player who just wants to hook up with girls.
I honestly do think that the only reason he cheated on you with his ex was because he wanted some and you weren't there so he knew that she would so he just called her. But what are you supposed to do drop everything everytime he wants to have sex? I DON"T THINK SOO!!
Maybe, now that you've moved is a chance to start over. This guy is weird and i think...maybe a little messes up in the head! lol
hope i helped!
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