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My friend is BEING AN IDIOT.
OKAY.
Well my friend likes this guy who is sort of playing around with her. Somedays he'll flirt with her, somedays he'll be normal, somedays he'll ignore her. He hasn't really shown any interest in her, he does flirt but I think it's just a casual thing.
Anyway, we (We being all her friends) think what he's doing is wrong, no matter how he feels about her.
One day, one of our friends was like "oh my god, you can do so much better. seriously, you're so much better than him. what he's doing isn't right"
Then my friend who I'm asking about/likes the boy spent the whole weekend bitching about my friend, saying it was her descision to like him or not and my other friend doesn't get a say in it. I didn't say anything, but I spent the whole time thinking 'it's not like she was forcing you to not like him...besides, it was a COMPLIMENT'
And now I'm starting to get sick of it all. She acts as if this is a long time boyfriend and takes everything too seriously. She'll spend weeks moping about something really small, spends her time bitching about it, and oh, did I mention it's a guy over the internet she's never met before?
Because I'm a good friend I never said anything. And I never will. However just then...
We were having a 3 way convo on MSN. Me, my friend in question and another friend. She sent him an email and he hasn't replied yet. Me and friend in question are paying out the guy to her to make her feel better. So I said something, and she suddenly quits the convo and is now refusing to talk to me.
WTF?! I honestly didn't question her feelings for him, or even tell her what to do. All I said was this boy needs a slapping (because he DOES if he feels like he needs to play around with girls on the internet :S go get some real piece of ass) and she's suddenly pissed at me, like the other friend who said she can do so much better.
What do I do from here, I want her friendship, but honestly if she's going to be like this...
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since she doesnt even know the dude, she shouldnt even care, let alone get upset about it.
for all you guys know, he could be some really creepy internet stalker dude. be absolutely sure she doesnt say anything to him (ie: where she lives, what her real name is, like first, middle, and last, or even what city.) because if he IS a stalker, he'll try to find her. and im not even going to go into detail about it. but you HAVE to get her to stop obsessing over him. what if hes not even a "he"??
i know that really doesnt answer your question, but my friend did this once and ended up getting stalked and almost raped.
anyways, tell her you mean well. tell her you and your other friend are trying to help her out. has she ever been in a real relationship? maybe shes sticking to this "guy" because she feels alone in the relationship category.
wanna know what i would do??? i'd call her up, apologize, and ask her why she likes this dude. after she names her reasons why, start to ask her questions. for example:
Y: what do you like about him?
H: hes really sweet, he makes me feel loved. and hes toooootally cute. and he just says the sweetest things.
Y: how do you know hes cute? that might not be his real pic. besides, you dont know him, right? (be sure you do this in person so she cant hang up on you or log out of MSN or anything like that,)
H: well, i just know.
Y: how do you know that hes not some creepy old guy?
and so on and so forth. sorry this is so long, but i hope i helped. and if not, sorry. tried the best i could.
take care. :)
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Hmmm. Well it's obvious that she has feelings for him but people fool around on the internet all the time. Even though he's flirting he's probably not serious and is just having fun in a pleasant conversation. Hopfully your friend's aware of this and won't get to serious over this guy, though it seems she already has. I think it'd be nice of you to stay friends with her. She's probably one of those people who don't keep things to themselves, which I'm not saying is a bad thing but she'll probably continue to bitch. I'd apologise, even if you didn't really do anything wrong, because you said a semi-insulting comment about the one she has feelings for. My advice is that you stay friends with her, apologise, and if you can't haddle the bitching, ask her to stop. Simply explain that, if she continues to speak with you about him, you'll continue to make comments and if she doesn't want to hear them, to simply shut up. (though not so harsh)Well, hope I helpped a little. Good Luck.
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