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i don't really know what to put but..
15/f
i'm a freshman in highschool
i feel like practically everyone drinks and smokes and has sex. i don't. is that like normal to feel this way?
and my boyfriend hangs out with people who do all that stuff. it just worries me.
do you think i'll regret not doing any of this though? i mean is really as fun as people say?
this is stupid but i don't know.
i'm not going to do any of this stuff, i just want to know. thanks =]
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Well, it might seem like everyone is doing it, but I can pretty much assure you that there are plenty of people who aren't. Now, by the time you're a senior, a lot of people - maybe even the majority - probably will have tried some of those things at least once. But still, not everyone. I know plenty of people who graduated from High School without ever drinking, smoking or having sex.
But I can tell you this: the people who are doing those things now, as freshmen, aren't doing themselves any favors. They might seem like the "cool" ones right now, but just watch... by sophomore or junior year, they'll be the ones with the bad reputations that everyone looks down on. That's because all that "fun" and partying will start to take over... they'll lose interest in school, drop out of sports and activities, and eventually all they'll be known for is partying or sleeping around.
By the time you're a senior, the "popular" people will be the ones who are liked and respected by everyone because they've stayed involved in school, kept decent grades, and kept themselves out of trouble. And yeah, you might see some of them as seniors drinking at a party now and then, but they won't have ruined their reputations by doing it all the time, all through high school.
So no, I don't think you'll regret it at all if you stay away from that stuff. I think you'll be very glad!
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Maybe its as fun as it sounds. but nobody talks about how misreable the crash is. you are going to be a lot happier without the sex/drugs/smoking.
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It is true, a LOT of people in high school do these things. But I've found that the ones who don't, at least at my school, are the ones that everyone looks up to and wants to hangout with.
It's totally normal to feel like you're one of few that don't- because, sadly, you probably are. But it's awesome that you have morals and think it's dumb. It definitely is. Just today, a girl that used to go to my school (but transferred a few months ago) was incarcerated because of drugs. She is 18 and will now most likely have to do time. It seriously ruins your life.
And it definitely isn't as fun as people make it out to be. Honestly, I think it's all just a way to get attention. And what's the fun in drinking or smoking, when you don't even remember what happens half the time? These people won't be able to look back on their high school years and remember the good parts, because they won't have any memory of it hardly at all. And what kind of example is that to their kids? And as far as sex goes, teen pregnancy is NOT a fun thing. Real live babies are not the babydolls girls think they'll be.
You definitely won't regret staying alcohol/drug free, believe me- I'm a senior about to graduate in less than 2 months, and I've never tried anything of those things, and I honestly could not be more glad. (:
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