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MY BESTFRIEND TREATS ME BAD. help! asap!
okay, i dont really know where to start.
way to much happend to really write it all down.
in summary- about two weeks ago my bestfriend really screwed me over, she treated me like shit for the whole week, i cryed and cryed- and i never really cry about anything, and all she could say was, "good let her cry." it was really hard for me, mostly because i kinda sensed something would eventually go wrong, and i should just for myself not be so connected with her, because when something bad does happen, ill be screwed. and i was, i never felt so hurt in my life. it was really bad. and no one had ANY good advice to give me, but to let go. i know thats what i should of done. but, i didnt. she NEVER apologized, she just one day at school acted like everything was okay, so i went along with it.
the only really bad part about her- is that she hates talking about our problems. she hates talking about negative things, unless its her personal problems. so whenever i have a problem with her, and i go to discuss it with her, she just gets mad. so i usually just ignore it, which isnt easy either.
I feel like im sacrificing to much for her, but i really cant let go, shes been my friend for so long now, and shes the only person who i feel i can be crazy and comfortable around.
I have alot of friends at school, the majority of everyone knows who me and my bestfriend are, and everyone knows were bestfriend. but for some reason, alot of people act like shes their bestfriend. i dont really mind, because every time that person isnt looking, she looks at me like she hates them. :)
but she really doesnt treat me well.
and i REALLY want to just drop her.
but for the sake of myself, theres only the rest of this year of school, then one more year of school for me. so im just gonna put up with it.
is that a stupid decision?
please give me ALOT of advice.
because i dont know what to do.
i mean i know what i should do, but i cant do that.
please<3
thank you so much.
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She's your best friend and she's supposed to be able to confide in you about everything and vice versa. Whenever you have a problem with her she should bite her tongue and listen to what you have to say. Otherwise you two are in a one-sided relationship with your best friend and that's totally unfair on you.
I actually just lost my best friend about a month ago over my boyfriend and I miss her very much. But, she was always mean to me, and everytime I did something wrong it was a big fucking deal, and when she did something wrong I ignored it for the sake of our friendship to make HER feel better.
Sometimes you have to care more about yourself then others, because you'll just end up hurting yourself at the end of the day and that's the last thing you want to do.
Honestly, if I were in your position I would've handled things the same exact way. But, in the future things won't change and if they do that's great, but it probably won't. I think you need to sit her down and actually tell her how you feel and if she won't listen then write her a letter or like an e-mail then she'll be forced to listen without interrupting you. You're trying so hard to save yall's relationship and she is just making everything worse.
I hope things get better for you(:
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ill try and give you my best advice but it would help if you could tell me if you know why shes so mad at you like do you have a bf and shes jealous b/c that kinda unusual. if she does hate you guts then mabye you should end it no one is worth being treated like s crap. i told another person this that had a similar problem. this person might be your friend. some people have sick minds and like to watch people suffer. she will act like shes your friend then you will tell her sercets but she will tell everyone in order to embarasse you then she will keep spreading rumors until she mentally destroys you. after that she will take control of your life you will become a puppet of your best friend but you just cant let it gt the best of you. friends come and go and mabye its your friends turn. this is only if your friend is like that. your friend could also be having problems in her life and doesnt know how to deal with. if she is having problems with her life you should help her. my advice my be confusing but it would be better if you tell if you find out exactly why you friend is mad b/c this could mean the difference of whether or not she stays your friend
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I had the same problem, but i didn't drop my friend,. she gave me the worst rep. as a slut, whore, and a loser, friends especially best friends should never treat you like that ever! and because your not fropping her she knows that she can continue to hurt you and you won't move on or anything, i would definetly suggest moving on, because, you said
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<I have alot of friends at school>
SO make them better friends, don't let her treat you like shit,. stand up to her and say thats enough! you will not make me feel like shit anymore!
you will feel shitty after doing so, but hon, friends should be there for you not hurting you.
~ Hope This Helps And If You Have And More Questions Just Ask:) ~
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