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my crush's friend
15.f
i like a guy.
i am friends with two of his friends, guy A and guy B.
i am considering telling either guy A or guy B about my crush for several reasons. firstly, i could get the inside scoop on my crush's life. secondly, i can get advice from them on how to go about becoming friends with my crush without being obvious.
"why don't you just gradually start talking to your crush more instead of risking him finding out from your friends and getting into all this hassle?" you might be asking. but the answer is simply that i'm scared. please note: do not give me advice on how i should be more confident, etc. or i'll rate lower.
i've come to the conclusion that i'm much better friends with guy A than guy B.
i want to find out how i can test guy A to see if i can trust him with something like this or not. please do not suggest "tell them a fake secret and see if they tell!"
i was planning on just being like, "yo, i kinda like this guy and idk what to do. can you help me?" -- if guy A responds like, "oh do this..." then i don't have to worry about telling guy A the name of who i like. but in case guy A is like some people, and gets very angry with me that i won't tell guy A, i'll be forced to tell guy A and i don't want to be in such an awkward position cause i don't want to lose my friendship with guy A.
summary: how do you know when you can fully trust someone when you're in the transitional stage between acquaintance / sorta friends to good friends with them?
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Well it really depends on whether you want your crush to find out you like him or not. If you and this guy are pretty good friends and you just want advice on your crush, then I would suggest just telling him that you like someone but don't know how to go about seeing if he likes you. If he asks you who it is then just tell him that you would rather not say until you know if it is going somewhere or not. Most boys will give you advice but they will also like to know who you are crushing on.
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i had the EXACT problem a few weeks ago. i just asked my friend who he liked. he told me. then he asked me who i liked and i told him. he has actually been really supportive. asking me if i want him to introduce us and stuff. but i dont really know your friend. so if hes like that then tell him. im sure he probably wont tell if you tell him not to.
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Thing is, you never really know for sure.
You could be friends with someone for years, they still might betray your trust. Friendship is always a risk.
It comes down the same problem you are having with your actual crush: You are scarred and looking for the perfect answer on how to get what you want without taking risks.
There are no perfect answers. Most of the time, you just have to risk it in order to move forward.
If you think you can trust A, take the plunge and give it a try.
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