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odd one out
okay i need some help, and if you're gonna be mean, dont bother making this worse.
im really worried about my life right now, there are lots of things that are messed up, but the biggest thing im worried about is having a boyfriend and relationships.
so im 16/f, and a sophomore. i have a lot of friends, and im really social and everything, but some things just havent happened to me yet, and i dont know what to do to change it.
so im kind of feeling left out from all my friends, and this is embarrasing to come out with, but i havent had a real boyfriend like ever, and i havent even been kissed. i kind of feel pathetic, and ive been trying to get advice but people keep saying its okay and its normal, but i know its not. so if youre going to tell me that, dont bother. i feel really pathetic because im so good with helping my friends with relationships, but all of my guy friends think of me as friends.
im just starting to feel really down about myself, i know im not ugly but im not the prettiest girl out there. i just dont get whats wrong with me. people who dont even deserve to have any friends get all the guys out there, and i just dont get it. im a good person, and i dont get why it feels like im getting punished. im not a wierd girl or a nerd, im just normal with regular friends. all of my friends get boyfriends and i just dotn think its fair because i feel pathetic around them.
im just so sick of going to movies with them when they have boyfriends and im sitting there. i want to feel good about myself for once. i honestly dont know what im asking for advice for, but i just need someone to help me. i dont want to hear this is normal, or that i have no reason to worry. i actually want to go to a dance with a boy that likes me, and go to the movies and everything with someone that cares for me. someone just help me pleaseeee. i just need to know what to do. :D
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Ok there really is no problem with that. I am the same age and a sophmore too, and me and mt b/f have been together a year and almost 3 months. the reason im telling you this is because before we were together, i had a problem with hooking up with guys b/c i thought i would never ever find the right person to be with and I wanted to soo bad. I hated being around my friends with couples and seeing them kissing and holding eachother. so now, I have that special someone. if you just look around, you arent going to find the right person, you just have to hangout and wait and you will find the person. I know it isnt the best advice,but we are practically exactly alike, and that worked for me. so just be patient and you will find that person. hope my advice worked!
Ashleigh
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Step one is to stop feeling like you need a guy in your life to make you feel good about yourself. You got to feel good about yourself because you like YOU.
Think of it this way- You feel down, pathetic, odd, abnormal, and I'd wager jealous of your friends' relationships.What kind of vibe does that put out there? Feeling so down on yourself IS obvious to others, including guys.
So work on trying to feel better about yourself, excluding guys from that equation. Boys do not equal happiness.
After that, then work on trying to find a guy who isn't already established as your friend. Of course all of your guy friends think of you as "friend." That is what you are.
Seek someone who you find interest in that you can get to know.
"Hmmm. That Fred guy seems pretty nice. I wonder if he's the right fellow for me? I guess I'll go up and spark a conversation with him, and see if he is someone I'd click with."
Spark conversation, "Hi, how ya doing? Say, what kind of movies do you like? My friends and I are going to such and such a flick on Friday night if you are interested in joining."
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