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not very social
im kinda a quiet person in general and i dont really know what to say around guys.. i try and be myself but nothing really comes out.. so i have a date with a guy soon and i was wondering how do i open myself more? like be more talkative because im not very talkative.. thanks
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Well, as someone else said, try to think of some topics to bring up before hand, so you'll have some basics done. Talk about anything! Remember, this guy asked you out because he likes you and wants to get to know you better, so some great convo starters would just be typiccal questions about music, sports, school, whatever. If he says something that you like or agree with, start talking about it. Also, what I like to do, is when you hit those awkward silent moments, say something like "Ha ha we ran out of things to talk about" or something. It's good to laugh at it, because it will kind of break the ice and loosen you up a bit. Make an inside joke about the silent moments so when you have one, you can laugh and say "Ah! talk! we ran out of things to talk about again!" Ha ha I love doing that, and it always works! Goodluck! :]
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Hi!
I am also a very quiet person and I struggle with this problem too. You could think of things to say beforehand, like if you and a guy are getting to know each other you could think of what you would say if he asked what music you like, where you like to go for fun, etc. Although it won't matter to the guy if you are unsure what to say, it may make you more nervous. Feeling prepared would make you less nervous.
Another thing you could try is pretending you are a specific famous person, or try to act somewhat like them while still being yourself. What I mean is, give your own honest answers about things, but say your answers in the way that the famous person would. If you decide to do this, watch interviews with the famous person on Youtube. It is best if you like the person, not if it is just any random famous person. Then, when you talk to the guy, pretend you are the famous person during an interview.
Sounds a little strange, but it's worth a try.
Good luck! Feel free to drop a message in my inbox anytime. =]
Hannah
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