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She always wants to be around me
ok so i have this friend. Lets call her "Jane" Well jane is always wanting to come over and when she does all she wants to do is look threw my clothes and my shoes. And stuff. And when i say lets do something shes like do you have any money and when i say no shes like well i dont know what to do then. and she is like always cramping me. I NEED MY SPACE FOR OTHER FRIENDS!!! what should i do?
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Tell her how you feel -that its bothering you-
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I don't blame you for how you feel, I would need my space away from someone like that too. Asking if you have money is just rude, almost like she intends on using you, but then she probably doesn't know any better. She is probably a very lonesome person, and perhaps driving people away and not knowing that she is doing so. I call people like this "Cling Ons" once you are nice they take it like you are their best friend in the whole world. Unless you know of someone who is needy for friendship that you can introduce her to, You are probably just going to have to come out and say what about her is bothering you. Be tactful and honest and in the end, you may help her to see how her behavior affects people. So even if she is upset at the moment, maybe she will see the light and do better in other friendships in the future. You know the saying "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger"
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I would say hey Jane I need a little bit more space your not my only friend i still want to hang out with you but i just want to be able to talk to all my friends and I need to think off things that we both like doing because i really dont like going threw my cloths every time i see you.....
Hope this will help you and "Jane"
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I know this isnt the nicest suggestion but its what i do, I just say i cant and make up some excuse why i cant(babysitting,family time, blame it on ur parents)
You can also try talking to her, but it could hurt her feelings, or she can just take it the wrong way.
if you dont want to even be friends avoid her
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suggest hanging out at her house
or if you want space for your other friends then you should make plans with them before she asks to hang out
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