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overprotected parents
ok. im 16 years old living with overprotected parents. im the type of teenager that does real good in school & never gets into any type of trouble. im the nicest girl you will ever meet. but when it comes to going out with friends & things like that im not allowed to. [im not interested in any guys at this point either.] i get everything i want, but that. i tried & tried talking to my parents about it but they never listen to me. all they do is ignore me or do whatever they can to do to not talk about it. i mean im not the type to go out & drink & do drugs. i have too much ahead of me to ruin that. but theres times where i think of running away & doing whatever i want. i just want to b happy like the rest of my friends. they take pictures & i see how much fun im missing out on. i mean its my life & i dont like having my parents telling my how to live it. sometimes i think of giving up but thats not me at all. not only that, it affects me in every way! the last place i would ever want to be is at home. i rather be at school where i dont have to fight or argue with the ones i love. basically i love my friends more than my parents. my question is what should i do with this situation of being overprotected? [help plz.]
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<b>I'm not sure that i'd eb an 'ok' person to answer your question but i saw it and was interested and conserned. i'm a pretty honest and down to earth straight forward type of person so hopefully i'd suit this question? :)
I see that you've already talked to your parents, but mabe you need to try again and mabe re-phrase what you say...
you should try something like.. 'mum, can i please go out with [whoever] on saturday?' and if she replys like.. 'aww no you can't, i'd rather you stayed here' then you should say 'but i'm missing out on all the fun with my friends.. it's not fair the way they can go out and i'm stuck here missing out on it all, i'm missing the fun in Teenager' something like that... it should work i guess but that's what i'd do.
You should definatly NOT get angry, depresed or stressed because that's probably the worst thing to do.. mabe you should ask your friends what you should do too? mabe they have a good way to talking to parents if they're always aloud out..
i'm not sure if i've given good advice here but i've told you what i'd do and i hope it works and Good Luck to you. xxxx
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Well, I'm sure you've realized that your parents *think* they're doing what's best for you. They think that by keeping you safely at home, they're protecting you from situations that could get you into trouble. And as long as they think this is the right thing to do, they aren't going to change their minds.
What you need to do is convince them that keeping you at home is actually BAD for you, and that going out with your friends will actually benefit you in the long run.
In order to convince them of this, you'll need to figure out exactly what they're afraid of. Maybe they're worried that you'll be around guys and want to start dating? Or that your social life will become more important to you than school and family? Or that your friends might do something bad and that you'll cave in to peer pressure?
It could be any or all of those things. But whatever it is, you need to get them thinking about this:
Pretty soon... just a couple years from now... you'll be off to college and on your own, without your parents to guide and protect you. And you WILL be around guys and have the chance to date. You WILL have the freedom to go out and socialize whenever you want. And some of your friends WILL want to go out drinking, etc.
How will you handle those situations? If you've never had any experience with it, how will you know what to do? If you've never dated before, will you know how to handle a sex-crazed college guy? Will you be able to manage your time well between studying and socializing? If your friends want to do something that could get them in trouble, will you be comfortable saying "no thanks, I'll pass this time"?
High School is a time of preparation... preparing for college, and life beyond. But there's a lot more to learn than what's taught in school and at home. You need to learn how to handle yourself in a world that's not perfect and safe and sheltered and regimented. By keeping you at home all the time, your parents are denying you the chance to learn those things. It's much better to learn those things gradually, in a more innocent environment, than to be thrown into the world with no experience to draw on.
If your parents look at it that way, they may ease up a bit and start giving you a little more freedom. So try talking to them about it, in a calm and logical way (without whining or blaming them or saying they're ruining your life). Let them know that you want to start learning to be more independent and make choices on your own... and that you'd like to start that learning process while you're still at home, so you can come to them for advice and guidance when you need it.
Good luck! =]
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Well.
i know what type of situation your in, and it sounds to me like your just tired of being kept in line by your parents so much. You sound like an amaazing girl and you have a lot ahead of you =D its great. But i know how seeing your friends going out having a fun time, taking pictures, and sometimes just being wild might get to you. You can be like that to, without getting into trouble and going out and drinking! You can go out on weekends with your friends and be in those pictures and just laugh with them. Now getting through to your parents may take time, there just being over protective because your there little girl still. You can always try to take the time with them and tell them you need to live a somewhat normal social life. That your not going to hide things from them and you'll still keep them filled in on life. Ask them for a little freedom, prove to them you can still do good in school while having a social life! I know you think you love your friends more than your parents, but the thing is, your parents are always gonna be the one's to back you up in the end.
if you need anything, keep in touch!
=D hope i helped.
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