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AAH!Why am I sort of manipulative sometimes?
I get jealous when I'm in a three-friend group,which I'm in a lot.So,I like to cause of a little drama sometimes.Like for example,let's go by Nicole and Cassie.I tell Nicole Cassie gossips about her,and the same thing for Cassie.So basically,I like making myself less jealous by making my friends hate each other,so I can have them to myself,without worrying they'll leave me out.Is it because I feel left out when they are doing something one-on-one?Can someone give me advice to stop feeling so jealous?13/F
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This is really common, a lot of girls do it, but dont let me make you think i am telling you that you are right. I know that it might be tough, jealousy is not the easiest thing to work with, but you just have to trust your friends, and keep in touch. If you guys are seriously friends, then nothing can ever come between you guys. If this continues, unfortunetly, there may be some consequences, like the two girls might talk to each other about the situation, and figure out what you have been doing. Or they could split up, and it would be non stop drama between the two of them, which may not seem like it would effect you very much, but when you are out with one of them just chilin, all they are going to want to talk about is the other person (gossip.)
Every time you want to do something you know you are not supposed to, just bite your tounge and occupy yourself at that moment, by walking away and doing something else. But i found some websites that can help you deal with it...and overcome it.
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A three friend trio at your age can be a difficult situation. You are going through a lot of hormonal changes that come along with growing up, so the jealousy feeling is normal. By turning your friends against each other, you are playing with fire. Sooner or later they will talk and figure it out, then you will be left out. The feelings of jealousy stem from your own insecurities, whether you realize it or not. That is also normal at 13. Believe me when I say this: you are not the only teenager out there going through this. Try suggesting more activites that the three of you can do together - maybe a slumber party - those are usually always super fun. Also, if you happen to find yourself feeling left out from your friends, talk to them about it. Tell them you are feeling a little left out. Many times others don't know how you feel unless you say something. Communication is important in any relationship you have with any one. I have lived by the motto: say what you mean, and mean what you say. If they truely are your friends, then they will listen and understand. Good Luck.
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Well, I used to have the same problem. But I realized why waste my time being jealous when I could be having alot of fun with these people!? So just try to stop thinking about it and just have a good time. If they do leave you out though, talk to them about it. They'll stop if they are your true friends.
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