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im not sure how i feel about her
most of my friends are girls ima guy. one of my very good friends probly my best and i became friends not to long ago and it went straight up from there. we were both home sick all this week so far. we talked the whole time i was awake. i helpd her plan her birthday and she always texts me the chainmail sayin i love you or stuff like that how much she cares for me. i care for her alot to i just dont picture us dating were the kind of friends that are super close and very flirty but just not relationship kinda people. shes also having a very hard time with this other guy. after hearing all hes done to her i hate him. but i just dont really know what to do. i dont want to hurt her shes been hurt enough in one week than most people are in a life time. him and her fighting then being friends again have been going on for about a year. her bdays on valintines day what should i do or say to her. id die if she would get more hurt after i kill the guy who hurt her. but i just dont love her romantically i say just friends but we care and flirt with eachother way to much. what do i do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I know a lot of people say "Just tell her how you feel" but I know it's not that easy at all. Try to hint to her that she's only a friend (ex: "I'm so glad I have a friend like you"). If you eventually want her as more than a friend tell her she deserves someone who treats her like a princess then jokingly say "You know, someone like me" and see how she reacts.
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Do you know whether or not she likes you?
because if you don't know, how will it surely break her heart to know that you don't like her romantically?
About the arse, tell her exactly what you said here, that you don't want to see her get hurt anymore.
For her birthday/valentines day, thats really up to you. I dont know the girl (I think?) but you should do something that is personal to you two: nothing cheesy like dozens of flowers and bunches of chocolate, but something personalized.
if she's rather sappy, you can give her a hand made card, will a sweet happy birthday wish, or a letter telling her how michvyou care for her. (if you do option B, dont say you dont like her romantically- try to steer clear of the whole subject.)
Im getting too lazy to write anymore now, but if you'd like some other ideas, or I didnt answer the question, feel free to drop an email or another inbox question on here. :]
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I used to like my very best guy friend. And he liked me. We never ended up dating though. Best friends that you kinda sort like are the oddest. First things first though, limit flirting as much as possible! If she is already having guy trouble, she doesn't need any more confusion, you don't have to stop completely, because that would be obvious and she will think something is up with you, and that's not really what you are going for. Buy her something nice for her birthday, but don't do anything with her for actual Valentine's Day. (If that makes any sense at all.) Make sure it is obvious that you are celebrating her birthday instead. Try the friends with benefits thing for a while, yeah it might get messy, but...you have to try something, something that you both can agree to. Talk to her about her asshole boyfriend and how you hate seeing him hurt her constantly. Bottom line? Talk with her, sort things out. Be honest. That's the best advice I can give.
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First of all, you can't get too involved with her situation with the other guy. Yeah, he is probably a douche, but she has something for him. If you get involved in a three-way triangle it'll end up disastrous.
Secondly, be there for her. Talk to her, listen, and give her your input. That's as involved as you can get with her problem without trouble.
For her birthday/Valentine's Day, maybe a flower? Rose or something of that nature. Nothing really fancy, but something to show that you care.
If you don't love her romantically, there's nothing wrong with it. Not seeing a relationship with her in your future doesn't mean it's not possible. Only time will tell, so just let whatever happens happen.
As for the present, just be someone she can turn to, and see where things go from there.
Sorry for the long winded answer, but I hope it helps!
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If you don't want to give her a flower, like the other person said you can try a teddy bear or chocolate. Be creative!
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hey sug.
it sounds like your already doing the
right thing. She is going threw alot right
now and for her to start a relationship might
be a really bad ideal. Sounds like she
is down pretty far and needs now more then ever
someone to just hold her up. The no strings attached, can snot on your shirts, and
eat ice cream person. Telling her
how you feel right now is gonna result in either a rebound relationship or worse your gonna lose her. So send her flowers a huge teddy bear and some chocolates. And write something sweet and friendly on the card. It can even be dorky.Try to make her smile.Sounds like shes been missing her smile.Be there for her emotionally right now. Cus i bet thats what shes hoping for. If you do she'll probably start noticinng how great you are too. and it will give you time to suit out that elusive heart of yours.
hoped it helpd
sorry if it didnt
*orchid*
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