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"How can I deal with my anxiety and major changes at the sam
here andDear Advicenators,
I'm 13(im a girl 2) and I live with my mom,dad,and stubborn 7yr old sister. Recently my father who is a mechanic applied for a better job at Honda and while making his application he made my mom an application to as a joke...but today Honda called wanting my mom. All my life i've had a stay at home mom who had certian handy-jobs there but never really permanent jobs...and honda wants her to go to schooling for 6-8weeks! then they want her to work 2weeks 1st shift 2weeks 2nd shift and vice versa...that means id have to get myself and my little sister both ready for school and then make dinner for my dad and my picky eater sister all alone...and my mom is guilt tripping me into it by saying we need the money and my dad said it will be a life changing expierence for all of us but wat is this change isnt good? and my mom doesnt even like factory work!...and i have mild anxiety like i get nervous and anxiouse anout changes and this HUGE change has crying out of no where...what can i do to get through this?
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yea, if were you, it soo HUGE pressure for me, but it good experinec for you, as a house wife, so you can be prepare for future, and thing your doing, it show you care about them and love them, my boyfriend's mom, woke up 6am and cook for u and everything, kepe thing clean, I'm try do that, i like it, keep doing, busy, if your nevrous then sit down and relaize or whatever.
hope it help....
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You don't have a choice. Instead of moping around thinking about how much your life sucks, why don't you get over it and begin thinking about how this will improve your life in the long run?
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I know exactly what you're going through. When I was 12, my parents gave me the 'fantastic' news that my mom was pregnant. I was ELATED at first. I was thinking 'Wow, a little brother, this is gonna be amazing'. It turns out that I was the one who would be his babysitter. I watched him almost every day up until he was about 1 and a half [we put him into a 2 day a week day care]. I would cry too, and would think that my parents did this on purpose sometimes just to make me work harder than what was needed out of a preteen. I brought up the situation several times to my mom and she told me that they needed me to watch my brother because they had to save enough money to pay for bills, diapers, food, ect. I started to rebel a little, and I can honestly say that the birth of my brother has given me a complete perspective on life. I know it might sound cliche, but I realized that when I was babysitting, he wasn't JUST my little brother. This was another little human being, who would grow up to do great things.. It's kind of hard to explain the feelings that I have for my brother. I love him to death and would take a bullet for him, but sometimes I would find myself questioning as to WHY my parents didn't ask me in the first place if I would be okay with a new baby.
Anyways, enough about me. I know it's hard, and it's gonna take a lot of work; I'm not saying that this is going to be a walk in the park. At least your sister is a little grown, so she can find ways to entertain herself and grab a snack for herself when she's feeling a little hungry. Your parents really need your help right now, and know that your mother isn't doing this to make you feel bad, but she's doing it to support your family. I'm sure your sister knows how to put on her own clothes. Just remember, get everything ready the night before. Lay her clothes on her bed, make sure that she has her backpack, the usual. This isn't going to be easy for your mom, or your dad for that matter. Your mom and dad will be seeing less of you, and of each other [they're married, remember?]. Your family is just switching gears, and you distancing yourself isn't going to make things any better. And if you feel the need to cry, go ahead and CRY. It's okay to let your emotions out! Change can either be for better or for worse.
There's not much else I can say, but if you need someone to talk to; I'm right here.
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Tell your mom how you feel, you could also try and persuade her to take another job, a different one, with less hours. To do that, print out or collect some different job applications, and show them to her.
Hope I helped! :]]
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