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okay well i recently posted a question on my mom and how to tolerate her sober well....she didn't exactly stay sober. She just went on a really bad drinking benge and i went to stay at my sisters house. My grandma had to drug her in order to get her off of the beer and hard liquor. now i have been going through this my whole life and nowthat i'm getting older i know how to handle it and all but i don't want to have to take care of my mother when she is like that when my grandma is gone. I do try to help some but my grandma has bee ndealing with it more. I'm tired of being on the edge and not trusting her to stay sober at 15 i have no escape routes only my sisters for a few days. I have talked to my mom about when she is sober and she knows how i feel and she always says i'll never do it again but as her closest duaghter i know that it isn't true. SHe knows it deep inside to. She went to the doctor for anti-depresents but she drank on those before also. when she drinks my mind is focussed on her and not on school so my grades drop and i can't sleep. I need to find sometype of realese for this stress. I pissed off at her all the time because of her problem i know that i shouldnt be but i can't help it. I;m nice to her and hold my anger inside hping she won;t start again because everytime i let it go there she goes again she can't handle pressure . I want to get awawy but i don't know how i need to know some options because i can't live with this constantly and i can't baby her all the time i need to know what to do.
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i've had to learn the hard way, but you have to realize that although you might have some affect on your mom like taking care of her, it's her responsibility to take care of herself if she makes bad decisions. as she is an adult, she has the mental capacity to realize that you, the child, are not supposed to take care of your parent. because this is an addiction, sadly, the addiction is seen as more important to her than what should be her main priorities.
so, although you've told your mom how her drinking affects you, you might want to confront her with a more clear-cut statement. tell her that the choices she makes directly affect you, no matter what she thinks. you could set away some time and make a list of exactly how you're affected, maybe your grandma could be there when you confront her. but your mom needs to know why you're hurting so much, and why you need to move in with your brother.
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ok from the looks of it.. my mom sounds EXACTLY like your mom. its scary=[ but i am 16 and my brother moved away to college last summer and i have had to deal with if for many many years too. well i asked to move with my brother and she said no if i want to move out i can go to foster care. well now i find ways to completely ignore it. trust me, IT IS REALLY HARD!! well now my bf lives with me so that helps me out alot but what i used to do is lock my self in my room and do my hw, listen to music, watch tv, write my feelings down on paper. my grades would drop becuz of it too but since i ignore it now my grades are back up and im doing all right. trust me tho there is not much as a minor that you can do to get out of the situaution because they are the "ones in charge" so no matter how hard it is... you need to ignore it.
I hope my advice is helpful.
Ashleigh
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