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one but not the other
ok so i have these friends that ive known since i was 3.well they r twins. i get along better with one of them (who ironicly has the same name as me) and anyway sometimes i feel like i cant talk to her if the other one is around. im going to call the one i get along with,"sister" other one, "buddy". well sister really understands me and buddy doesnt. if i want to talk to sister about something she understands and relates to me. while i feel like buddy just thinks that im being over dramatic or stupid. sister and i are ALOT alike and buddy and i are way different!
i feel like she constanly talks down to me and sister doesnt but she also doesnt stand up for me when buddy does that. HELP PLEASE I DONT KNOW ID BUDDY IS FRIEND OR FOE!
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I think that buddy juss sees things differently then you do,it doesnt mean she doesnt like you come on,youve known her since you were like 3.She juss has a different point of veiw on things,while sister is compassionate and feels the way you do about things.Dont lose buddy,shes not a foe.But if what she says hurts your feelings too much then just tell her nicely to be a lil nicer cuz your asking for help not critisizm.
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Put yourself in buddy's shoes...would you like to be left out and not in with the conversations you and sister have together? Like, that hurts. So, buddy isn't going to be that loving towards you because you aren't with her...yuh know? And I am a triplet, [me, my sis, and bro] so I know what it must feel like to be in buddy's place, and it's not fun. So, I think that if you opened up to buddy, she would shpw you a lot of good qualities that her and sister share, but they aren't gonna be the same person, and it's okay that you are better friends with sister, it's not like you wanted it that way...it just kinda happened. Sister may also be shy and just a good friend to share secrets with, while buddy will stand up for you through thick and thin because she likes you, you are her friend :] and that's nice, so just include buddy more, talk to her, not just sister. Buddy is not a foe :]
I hope you understood that haha, good luckk
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''Buddy'' is probably jealous of the close relationship that you & ''sister'' have. Try asking her out with you guys a bit. Do something that ''buddy'' likes, even if you don't like it, just to see the real ''bubby'' come out. You will soon know whether she has got it in for you as such.
But Im sure thats not the case, as I say shes probably just jealous, or worried shes losing her sister. Good Luck ! <3
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