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New Friends vs. Old friends with a twist!
Me, Jess, and Alexa are best friends. At the beginning of the year Jess and some of her other friends were friends with this group of guys. One of the guys started liking one of Jess's friends, but it didn't work out. So then those guys stopped talking to Jess and her friends all together to avoid the awkwardness. Now me and Alexa are friends with these guys out of a coincidence. Jess is jealous and feels REALLY left out. She's upset because her old guy friends "dumped" her and moved on to me and Alexa. Now they don't acknowledge her at all. But the thing is...these guys call us to hang out all the time and they persue our friendship a lot. Jess is one of my best friends and being friends with these guys is hurting our friendship.
The horrible part is that I like one of the guys. I told Jess that by the way. Its horrible!
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say... if jess can't come we're not! good luck :p
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What you described is NO, and I mean absolutely NO reason for Jess to be 'shunned' by these guys.
If they were once friends with her, why can't she be included in the invitations out? Because of someone she happens to be friends with?
If that is the way these guys see fit to treat Jess, they are petty, cruel and very immature. I think it's pretty clear who you owe your loyalties too here. If these gentlemen can't be civil and include your best friend in outings because of a problem they have with someone else, they are the ones who deserve to be 'shunned'.
Put your foot down and insist they grow up and give Jess a fair chance. They don't have to be best friend, but they have to be fair and kind. I promise you, if this guy can't manage to be civil to your Jess and include her from time to time, he isn't worth liking anyways. Sooner or later he will treat you just as shabbily and painfully as he is letting Jess be treated.
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Guys will come and go, but true friends will always be there...chicks before dicks, remember? I mean, yeah, those are like the cardinal rules of friendship, and if she really is your best friend you'll have to tell the guys that you're just not gonna choose between them, and if they make you, choose your best friend because why throw away that relationhip? If the guy you like doesn't stick with you just because you're hanging out with Jess, than why would you want to be in a cnotrolling relationship like that anyways? Your boyfriend [whoever he may be] should be chill with your friends and except you and them at face value. Tell them, take it or leave it. yuh know?
Good luckk
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Tell them you guys arn't hanging out unless they envole Jess to. Simple as that. Specially if they like one of you because they'll want to hang out with you and if that envloves letting someone else come I'm sure they'll be fine with it, if not.. why would you want somoene like that anyway?
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