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How To Keep The Friendship Going
Here is the problem I have known this guy most of our lives since 3rd grade now we are in our 20's. We haven't talked since we graduated in 2000 because we lost touch when he joined the Air Force but now I found him on MySpace he his married and has a daughter but here is the real problem I tried to get his cell number so I could give him a call and catch up cause he doesn't go online alot I talked with him a couple times when we were both online but I didn't get a chance to ask him for his number because we didn't talk long enough. Well anyway I asked his wife for his number and she said if he wanted you to have his number he would have given it to you. She also said that she would even give it to me if he wanted her to. But here's what bothers me we have been friends all these years and she won't help. I know he would have given me his number if he had a chance and I know for a fact that he wants to stay friends because he was looking forward to talking again. One other thing I gave him my cell number when I messaged him but his wife could of deleted it before he saw it because she messaged me once using his profile so if she went on his profile before she could do it again especially if she wants us to no longer be friends. What do you think I should do? Any advice would be really appreciated I just don't want to waste anymore time when we can be catching up.
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First off: Chill out an wait.
The more your irratate his bitchy wife, the less he going to want to risk speaking to you. So back off, wait untill he is online agian and then ask him for his phone number.
You are making his life miserable if you keep pissing this woman off.
Secondly: You don't know she deleted it. So don't accuse her to him. Don't get in the middle of thier marriage anymore. It's sounds toxic and it's none of your bussiness.
You obviously aren't going to get anywhere untill you speak to him directly, so just wait. Catching up can happen just as effectively next month as it can tommorrow.
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The only thing which you can do is wait until he's online again and try to catch him again and ask for his number. In the process, ask whether all of you could meet up some where, so that you and his wife get to know each other a bit better.
Or even try calling his house again and if the wife picks up, explain to her that you don't want to 'impose' anything (not saying anything here), you just want to catch up with him since your both friends (also make it plain that you don't want anything else. That way, the wife won't have an excuse to say no). She cannot deny the two of still being friends, but remeber, she could be just trying to keep him and not to loose him, since they've got a daughter.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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