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My Boyfriend Left For The Navy
Hi, My name's Rae, I'm a 17/f. My 19 yr old boyfriend just left for the Navy like, an hour ago. He's going to basic training and I won't be able to talk to him on the phone as often or see him at all until 9 weeks (His family and I are driving to Chicago for his graduation in late March). I just need to know how I can deal with this. It's so hard for me to be away from someone that I truly love. We've been together for so long and I feel so out of place without him. Please, help. Love, Rae.
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hey rae, omg i know exactly how you feel. me and my boyfriend went through the exact same thing last year. and im goign to be honest with you...its going to be really hard at first...but then he will mail you a letter w/ his address about 2 weeks after he leave and you can start writing him. i wrote my boyfirned every single day. he says it helped him alot. they really tear the boys down in bootcamp. so just write him as often as you can w/ happy news and good encouraging words. never tell him anythign bad and please dont break up w/ him while he is there. he will probablly get to call once or twice...i missed my boyfirneds first call and felt horrible so alwasy have your fone w/ you. but n/e ways i hoped this helped. i promise that after he starts sending you letters (about one a week) it will get alot easier! the navy does alot of good for the men and women! ...oh and one other thing....idk what his recruiter told you or him. but after bootcamp you go to his grad. and spend the weekend w/ him. then he is off to school for how ever long. he doesnt get to come home unitl that is over with. you can go up there but he cant leave. my boyfirned was gone almost a year before he came home again but he was told he would come home after basic. it was hard but its been a year and we are doing
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okay i dont know how i was supposed to write you back but this is the only way i could figure it out. anyways yeah i have a myspace and an email. my email is xxsuthurnbabiixx@aim.com. and idk my myspace deal so just send me yours if you have one and ill get in touch with you that way. im glad i helped!
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I was in a similar situation, so I know how you feel. What I did to pass the time during his BT was I would write down something(s) I wanted to tell him every day that I couldn't talk to him. When I could finally start sending him letters, it was the first thing I sent him and it really meant a lot for both of us.
There isn't much you can do to ease the seperation anxiety except to know that when you finally get to speak to him again, how much you've been thinking about him every day can actually be expressed into words-- because you've been writing it all down. And it just makes it that much more special when you're able to communicate again.
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hi rae (beautiful name by the way!). you don't realize your strength. i can see you are already strong by accepting the fact that he is going away and watching him leave. i know, like you, i would feel so out of place without my boyfriend. maybe like in the notebook, you can write him letters everyday telling him how much you love him, miss him, and what you've been doing. even if you don't send them to him, you can keep them and give them to him when he gets home in a few weeks. keep a countdown to when he gets home! keep yourself busy so that there's less time for you to be upset about him not being there. even though it will be hard make sure you never underestimate your strength. seeing him will be great in 9 weeks, look forward to that! good luck! you'll do great.<3
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