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My two friends
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I have two friends and they are really cool and everything but my friend (lets call her C) has been getting annoyed with (lets call her J) because C tells me that J always is talking about her problems and everything and thinks that the world evolves around her. So C told J about it but in a more nicer way than it seemed and obviously J got upset. J is mad at C now and J is talking about C also. So they both are my friends and they want me to take their sides. I just want them to be friends again and me and the rest of my friends won't have to deal with this anymore.
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if i were you, i would just stay out of the whole situation. You like them both, right? then why should you have to pick? let them know that you like the both of them...and that you cant pick sides. this is their battle, things will play out. Just make sure you're not stuck alone with either "C" or "J" while they are mad, and are talking about one another behind each others back. for example...you are alone with "C" or "J"
and they are just gossiping constantly non stop. The best thing to do in this situation is to A bring up a different topic or B just listen...no talk.
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Hey!
The biggest thing is to remember here is not to get in the middle of it. If you get in there and try to reconcile their relationship, then problems will occur. I was in eighth grade a couple of years ago, so I remember what its like. I remember the drama, and the fights. it feels like they will never get over it, but they will, and fast. So dont worry about it. Tell both of them that you are both of their friends so it is not okay to diss the other one in any way. If they dont listen tell them again to stop and if they dont listen again, get up and leave. them talking about each other may make them feel better, but that is just going to make everything worse. Tell them taht you refuse to take sides, and when they say thats not fair, tell them that yes it is fair, its completely and totally fair, and that they should be happy that you are being a good friend and not taking sides. Tell them that sometimes you have to be the big person and forgive the other one, well maybe they wont listen, but thats the kind of advice to give. Dont set up senarios with them like what to say if she says this, I made that mistake. My friends would try and take my advice and screw it up and make everything worse. be very general when saying things. Just tell them to try and talk it out, or whatever.
I can tell you're a really good friend, and you're cvoncerned for your friends, but every friendship goes through trials and tribulations when youre in about 7-9th grade. I remember all of the stuff my friends and I went through. Let me know if you need more advice, because I've lived through it, so I know you can too. Good luck, hope I helped, love ya!
Angie91
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