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my mom and me
okay this problem has been hearsince i was born. my mom divorced my dad and left my 4 siblings with him. i wasw about 6 months old when we left for nc to live with my grandma because she couldn't afford living on her own. while we lived there she neverm ade any friends or had anything to do with our family there besides my grandma. Since she had nobody all she had was me and she was stuck up my butt and would get mad if i wanted to go to a friends house or anything without her.so i didn't go places very often. she is also an alcoholic.She get really violent and she has also done a whole bunch of drugs. she would diappear for a wee or 2 at a time. she got caught and when she recovered she was stuck up my butt even worse. i had to start just leaving because other wise i would not have been able to do anything at all. well my mom's job trasfered her to a new town and her i am. we are close to my dad and them but she still is so far up my but and she is always right there when i wanna go somewhere. put it this way. i only have been to my friends house once and i had to fight to go. the only other place i have been is my sisters. she has started to drink again and she is getting to be unberable i can't do anything without her right there i'm 15 and i can't even go to my friends house. i don't want to live with her anymore but i can't live with my dad. he can't afford it. my sister is a sinlge mom with 2 kids so she can't afford me either. i don't know what to do i am terriable unhappy and i want to go back to nc. there are people there who could take me in but i can't leave because i need permission for my mom.and someone would have to buy me a ticket home. what do i do? i can't hardly take her anymore. i feel like i am in a prison. i have told her a million time but it never helps. What should i do?
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You have to just stay focused on your grade do good in school so you can go to college, and spend more time warning your mother of how she is ruining her life and yours.
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Right off the bat, I would suggest going to Al-Anon. Look it up online and find meetings in your area. It's for family and friends of alcoholics, it will help you love and tolerate your mother, while you're still in her care. You're 15, so you can't really go anywhere without her permission. You could suggest that she go to Alcoholics Anonymous, and start a sober lifestyle, she could make friends there, and become a better person all-around. If you tell her she needs help, she may considerate because from what it sounds like, you're her only friend. You need to have patience with her. If she really has alcoholism, then treat her like she is sick, because alcoholism is a disease. You have to be loving and tolerant even if it hurts. Check out Al-Anon, or find some sort of support group. You'll find that it helps a whole lot to know that other people are going through what you're going through. Good luck hun, if you need any more advice leave one in my inbox, or send me an email. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I can give you more of my contact information. ~Love Angel
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