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she's a bad friend, but i miss her
my best friend kylie and i recently got into an argument, and i decided to end the friendship.
what happened was that i found out somebody was passing around naked pictures of her. like giving them to her friends and shit. she wasn't supposed to know because only a small group of kids knew about it. the person that i found out from made me promise not to tell kylie. i promised. i wasn't going to tell kylie until i thought about it. i felt like withholding that kind of information from her was being a bad best friend. better to hear it from me than some stranger, right? so i told her. i pleaded with her not to tell anyone, that it would make me look bad, like a big mouth. she promised not to tell anybody.
to make a long story short, she went straight to the source and started bitching out the kid who passed them around. the more she tried to cover up, the more i found out she was lying to me. she even directly told the kid that i told her. she GAVE him the text messages to read, but lied about it and said he took her phone.
she wouldn't even admit that she did anything wrong. she acted like i was the one being selfish.
i told everyone that i was done with her, that i didn't want to speak to her ever again. two nights later, she apologized. i didn't expect her to do that.
now, i miss her. she's apologized and i feel like she should have a second chance. but now i make myself look stupid because i kept saying how i never wanted to speak to her again. the other thing is that i don't trust her anymore. she lied to me and kept secrets. i don't know what to do.
i'm sorry this was so long. but thank you to anyone that read it and can offer advice. <3
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Well I think you should dp what ever your heart tells you to. If it tells you, you should give her a second chance give her a second chance if it doesn't than you figure it out. I hope everything works out for the best.
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I know you feel upset she ratted you out, but think about it..naked pictures are really embarassing. I would have gone right to the source too. This is a rough thing for her to go through, and i really think you should talk to her. Put this behind the two of you, and move on. Who cares you told everyone you were done with her? You and her were best friends,dont let this incident ruin it hun
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You should give her a second chance. You have to remeber that everyone has seen things which they shouldn't have seen and that's completly exposed her. She would naturally feel angry and furious about the whole thing and anybody would, wouldn't they?
Now she's gotten over her anger, she's realised her mistake and now she wants to make it up.
I sometimes get very angry and i do things which i regret later, even break up some friendships, but when i apologised they didn't speak to me, ever. Don't let that happen to Kylie.
i really do hope that this helps,
triquetra
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It was nice of her to apologize. I think at this point, before you make any more big decisions, you should ask her to talk to you. Sit her down and tell her how you feel about her apologizing and not knowing whether you should give her a second chance. Tell her about how you feel that you don't trust her anymore. On things that you feel that she lied to you, ask her about it and tell her to be honest. In other words, just try to sit and reevaluate your friendship and see where it stands. If after all of that, she still wants to be your friend and you feel that she has gone through enough and are willing to give her the chance to earn back your trust, then its up to you to be her friends again.
Don't worry about telling people that you will never talk to her again. Honestly, if you are going to be friends with her then who cares that you said you weren't going to talk to her. Understandably you were upset and hurt, so for you to feel that way and say something like that was expected. You need to find it in yourself, either by talking to her about it, or your other good friends about it, if you can actually trust her. If for some reason or another you can't trust her then you should let her know that. Its a difficult situation, but I don't think you necessarily did the wrong thing in telling her about what was going on. Of course, the whole "promise you won't tell" thing didn't work out for anyone, did it? Sort your feelings out with her and try to think back and see if throughout your friendship if there have been more good moments than bad which might make it easier to forgive and give a second chance. Ultimately its up to you and about how comfortable you feel. Hope that helped and good luck.
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