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Boyfriends is a complainer.
I'm in love with my boyfriend. He's amazing. He really likes me, too.
But he's so high maintenance.
I'm sixteen. I don't have my license yet, and the possibility of me getting it sometime soon is very slim. He's not exactly thrilled with this situation. In fact, he's actually been fairly rude about it. He just gets upset about things easily.
So last night I was at my friend's house; my best friend drove me there and we were all just hanging out. My boyfriend texts me and asks me if I want to go to his house, and I tell him to just come over. He replies that he can't because he's been out and came home late the past 4 nights... (which a couple of times were my fault because we were hanging out) and tells me that he isn't even getting home until ten.
My curfew is 10:30. So I said "If you won't get home till ten, why would I go?"
I don't know if that was a mean thing to say or something. But he got upset and hurt about it and I guess I can see why.
It's like. he's the one that always has to drive to me. It's up to him whether or not we even see each other. And I'm not exactly worth all the trouble. I know that to him it just feels really unfair, but I can't really do anything about it. Like honestly.
But he's always been pretty easy to upset. About little things that I'm hoping most people wouldn't think twice about. Like if I don't talk to him for a day. I think he's pretty insecure.
It's just. I care so much about him. I really. I don't know what to do. I'm turning into a whimp who takes a ton of shit from him and apologizes for nothing, all because I like him so much. I want him to be happy. Why is it so hard for him to be? I don't know.
I don't even know what I'm asking you people. I guess I just needed to vent.
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Not only does he sound high maintenance, but he also sounds EXTREMELY clingy. It sounds like you're getting pretty stressed out about this, so tell him that you need a few days alone. If he asks to hang out, just tell him 'no', and that you would like your alone time. If he doesn't respect that, then it's time to get a new boyfriend. There will be others. You want to go out and have fun with your friends, but it seems like he wants to be the center of all of your attention. Explain to him that you have friends outside of your relationship, and you want to spend time with them without him getting upset about it. & It's okay to ask us this, [we get tons of other questions about relationships]. You really need to sit down and talk with him, and tell him that you're feeling too crowded and need some space. It doesn't mean that you guys have to break up, but maybe it's best that you guys kind of distance yourselves for a couple of days. Truth be told, your boyfriend is very dependent of you for his happiness.. I know that you like him, but you're the one that's supposed to be dependent of him, not the other way around. He really needs to man-up.
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well.. since there was really no question; I'll just tell you what I think! I know what your going through.. I dated a guy that was the same way (i think my guy was a little worse though! lol). We dated for three months and I really liked him; but I had to end it. We ended up dated again.. and I could on about it. But thats the main point lol. I'm not saying you should end it, but just do whatever you have to so that YOUR happy. And maybe you should try talking to him about it. Hope I helped!
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