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taking advantage
ok so a friend of my sister and i came over for the holidays from college. and at the beginning she use to ask if she could enter or use the phone and stuff like that. my sis and i were raised to always be nice to guests and be very hospitable. and we have... thing is she stopped asking for stuff and she knows perfectly well that we won't say no. for example she calls about 7 times a day (i am not exaggerating) to her family internationally and long distance just to "chat"... i mean fine it was the holidays and she called her parents and sibs but HELLO just because my parents look like they pick money from a tree that they should pay this high expensive bills...
so.... what should i do? mt mom will kill me if i say something outright (it's not "hospitable") i need a way to hint to her that she is taking advantage and that it's not "yeah sure go on a head!" anymore....... what do i do the next time she pics the phone and calls people overseas?
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To elaborate more on the first persons comment, think about this. You are in a different country, can't see or talk to your family and friends much, and it's the holidays. Wouldn't you want to pick up that phone too? However, there is a thing as excessive. Maybe she is home sick. If that's the case, maybe it's time for her to go back home. Ask her what's going on. See if she is having problems coping. Also, I would just tell your parents that this girl needs to learn some manners, and let them know exactly what is going on. I wouldn't address it yourself. Your parents should be the one to handle this. This way, you keep the peace between you and her, and your parents and you. Besides, no offense, but if your parents aren't concerned with the cost of the phone calls (and they are the ones paying for it), then why are you? Good Luck!
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You could point out the phone calls in the bill and show your mom how expensive AND excessive they are. You could also talk with the person, tell them that if she doesn't mind to limit the phone calls to 2 or 3 times a day? Make a compromise, something that both sides can benefit from.
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why dont you just say nicely that she is welcome to use your phone occasionally but she needs to remeber that the phone bills are expensive and she needs to think about the money your family is paying for her
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