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i dont know what to do. please help me...
recently my fiance told me he has feelings for another girl. but see..we have a long distance relastionship which is hard on us. we have been together for a year and we have only met once. but back to the issue. he said he likes her but loves me and would never cheat on me i beleive him and trust him completly. but they way he talks about her. it just hurts me so much. and before all of this we broke up for a week. and he went out with my bestfriend. which absoloutly killed me. of course. i took him back because i love him more then anything. but im afraid to talk to him about it and tell him how i feel about him liking her because im afraid he will get mad or something. im so confused and hurt i just dont know. i need help. please help me.
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sorry chicka but you gotta get over it as much as it may hurt you and everything hes just not the one for you you can do better :)
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He's your fiance and you've met once and been in a relationship for a year.
Sweetheart, I'm sorry to say, but that is not a relationship. Not really.
I've been at a distance on and off with my current for 3 years. But we saw each other multiple times a month. There were times when we went as long as 4 weeks between visits, but we have also lived together. (Complicated situation that doesnt need explaining here)
It takes face to face interaction to really get to know someone. To know their reactions, their habits, the way they think. Online you see only what someone wants you to see.
Talking is all you can do. So talk about it. But I'm telling you that its a danger sign if you are his fiance after 1 meeting and a year of phone and aim conversations.
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True love has no distance. If he was able in the week you broke up to go out wit your best friend and have feelings for someone else, as harsh as this reality may be, you need to move on no matter how hard it will be because he does not truly love you or care about you. You need someone who would never even think of sharing his life with someone else, feelings for you and only you, no interest in seeing anyone else if you two were to go on a break, someone who will give you his heart and assure you that he won't break yours.
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Honestly You SHould Tell Him
He loves You RIght
So Your Just Being Honest
And You Guys Need to Be Honest Since You Guysz Are About To Be Married And Since This Is Really Bothering YOu
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You're engaged to a man you've only met once? Honey, wake up. You haven't been together for a year, you've been together for one date. If he's so inconsiderate that he's talking to you about other women, then call it off, now. You say you love him more than anything--I say you haven't gotten out enough. Find someone who lives in your area, and has interests similar to yours. Get some backbone!! If you're too "afraid" to talk to this guy about your feelings, then you have no business even THINKING about marrying him.
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Trust is the foundation of relationship! It's really not going to work if you're afraid to talk to him about something! Regret, lieing, and secrets are what cause divorce. You don't want to start of with relationship with regret and questions.
Talk to him, and make sure he really doesn't have feelings for this girl!
Once you get married, one of you is going to have to make the ultimate step and move! I think you should start that step and move near eachother! But I really don't suggest that you move in together, it's been tested that people who move in together first have a higher divorce rate.
If I were you I would talk to him, and make sure he hasn't cheated on you. In the end if you really like him I would move CLOSER to him.
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