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ugh belly button pierced
for christmas i want my belly button pierced, thats all i actually really want, except my step dad has been so against it. all i asked for was his permission, i even offered to pay for it and its still a no. my moms fine with it.
his reason is that he thinks its "hoeish"
which doesnt really apply to me at all
im 15/f, sophmore. i've never even been kissed.
i get good grades like straight a;s, i hang out with good people. and hes so stubborn about it.
he thinks im gonna go around wearing like nothing after, and im not, thats not even me. and i told him that
what could i do to change his mind.
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This may not be what you want to hear, but please do read it.
Navel piercing is a pretty major body modification. It can take a long time to heal, and the piercing site can get infected very easily. (Just ask my sister-in-law; she had a navel piercing for about two weeks and had to remove it because it hurt so much.) Also, you can develop an allergy to the metal in the jewelry.
From your stepfather's viewpoint, if you're getting something pierced, it means you want to show that part of yourself off. (Same logic behind short skirts or low-cut tops; you're attracting attention to your legs or cleavage.) Your grades and behavior are irrelevant to him; all that matters is that you want to show part of yourself off, and he thinks you're too young to start doing that.
Unfortunately, in this culture women are judged by their looks and their dress. Men are to a lesser extent, but women get it really badly. You could be Marie Curie, Wilma Rudolph and Kelly Clarkson in one complete package, but if you show some leg all your talent and intelligence will be ignored. (Look at all the press that gets wasted on Condoleeza Rice's wardrobe.)
Like it or not, you've got to live there for the next three years. The last thing you need is additional tension, over and above the usual problems of being a teenager.
You might want to look into belly clips. This way you can still have the body jewelry without the permanent body mod, your stepfather doesn't blow a gasket, and you can decide if you really like having jewelry there. Then when you turn 18, you can get your navel (and anything else you like) pierced permanently.
Hope this helps.
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Hey I think you should try to convince him by telling him that its not hoeish and that a hoe is the opposite of what you are think of some good reasons of why you want to get your bellybutton pierced.
I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK
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hello darling,
you need to explain that you wont act like a "hoe" when you get this done. you need to also add you will keep your grades up and maybe add the reasons why you want a bellybutton ring. maybe get your mom to talk to him because she is the legal gaurdian of you. best wishes with your "christmas present."
-violet shroom
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