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Is there such thing?
Okay, so I’m basically asking about ‘Love’. I know the word is really powerful and so is the feeling. And I’ve noticed people say it when they don’t really mean it. Plus, a lot of people get hurt over it. But, I have a question about it. Is there such thing as ‘puppy love’. You know, I would call it ‘teenage love’. There has to be different kind of loves. Like: the way you ‘love’ your family, the way you ‘love’ your friends, the way you ‘love’ a husband, the way you ‘love’ a pet, and the way you ‘love’ a boyfriend. They can’t all be the same kind of love, can they? Because I am a teenager with a boyfriend that I ‘love’...but not the way you would love a husband or anything. I would almost call it ‘teenage love’ because we are still young. And plus, we don’t really understand the meaning of love, right? So, could anyone explain this to me. I just want to understand the meaning of love a little bit more than I do right now. Is there different types of love? It would be nice to have this explained a little bit further. And it would help if I was told that I make sense or not. Because sometimes, I don’t know what im talking about. I just want this clarified for me. =) Thanks in advance!
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I think you're making perfect sense, and you're absolutely right... there are many different types of love. What makes them different is that they're based on different things. For example, the love you feel for a pet is based on affection and a desire to protect and take care of it. The love you feel for your parents is also based on affection, but also respect and trust. The love you feel for a boyfriend will probably include some affection, but it's also gonna include some physical attraction.
I think that "true love" -- the kind where you want to spend the rest of your life with someone -- has to have all of those ingredients at the same time: affection, attraction, respect, admiration, trust, and truly caring about that person's happiness and well-being, to the point where you're willing to give up some of your own happiness to ensure theirs. And it also means really knowing that the person you love feels all those things for you.
When people say "You're too young to know what love is", I think they mean that the love you feel might not have all of the ingredients to be considered "true love." It might have physical attraction, but not respect or trust; or it might have affection, but not much attraction. It can still be love... but just not the "true love" kind of love.
But don't let anyone tell you that you don't really love someone. If you feel like you love someone, then you do! Because like you said, there are many different types of love. But at some point you'll be lucky enough to have all the ingredients together in one relationship, and then you'll know that it's "true love."
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I'm not so much going to answer your question myself, as I am going to suggest a book.
The book is called The Four Loves, it was written by C.S. Lewis (same guy who wrote The Chronicles of Narnia, he also wrote philosophy texts. Cool eh?).
If you are Christian you'll really relate too it, there is a LOT of mention of God in it since the writer was a late convert himself, but even if you aren't a Christian I think you'll find the book really valuable and it will help getting you thinking and defining what 'love is'. Basically, it's a good summary and introduction to the kind of thinking you starting to do. I read it for the first time when I was about sixteen and I would recommend it to anyone starting to look at the same questions.
It doesn't have all the answers, but what does? It's a good place to start.
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there are alot of different types of love. very true. But i usually can tell i really care for someone [love someone] if i would cry over them like if they left me or they died. I know it sounds dumb but when you think about it. It makes since. When my best friend was mad at me and deleted me off myspace. I was broken. I couldn't stop crying over her and i NEVER thought i'd cry over her. But loving someone and being in love with someone are different. I love alot of people but the only person i am in love with is God. The only other person i'd be in love with is like my husband or somethin. i'm not sure if i'm in love with anyone. But it does exist wherever it is.
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brianna <3
i hoped my opinion helped
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I know what you mean. Love is such a poweful, amazing thing. I honestly, think real 'love' is a very rare in teenagers. I mean it can happen, but it doesn't happen too often. In my opinion, Love and Hate are the 2 most over-used words, ever. People say them all too often without meaning them.
I agree with you when you said:
"Because I am a teenager with a boyfriend that I ‘love’...but not the way you would love a husband or anything. I would almost call it ‘teenage love’ because we are still young. And plus, we don’t really understand the meaning of love, right?"
In my opinion, ys, it's a kind of 'teenage love'. More like an infatuation or a form of lust maybe. I agree that it is by no means the same kind of 'love' as that you will have when you get married. Teenagers -like you & myself] don't know the real meaning of 'love' yet, so we call these feelings a different kind of 'love'. 'Teenage love', I guess.
Now, I haven't fallen in 'love', but I know countless people who say they have. I think they're the biggest idiots in the world because they think it's the deep, meaningful, true love you will one day have for the person you marry, when it's really nothing like that. The feelings you have now, at this age, and the feelings you will have when you're getting married are on a totally different playing field.
I think people call it 'love' because they don't know the meaning of it yet. Then they will one day, and realize they didn't really mean it when they said 'I love you' to their boyfriend/girlfriend.
Now, let me clarify:
These are just my honest opinions and by no means straight facts. There really is not right, or correct answer for this question, unless you've been through it, which I haven't.
I hope this makes sense
and helps you understand =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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