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Is it true?
One day my cousin came to visit us and was telling us about how much her dad hates her because he never stops yelling at her for anything she does and she doesn't do anything worng.
Then my dad interjected "You idiot! He yells at you a lot because he loves you the most!"
And then she looked at my little brother because evryone knows that he yells at him the most.
Is it true? I thought I was his favourite, I'm the only one out of the three siblings who even like him at all.
And if it is true, how? I don't get it, it doesn't make sense
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Maybe he was kidding. Or is your cousin's dad your dad's brother? Maybe he knows how much her dad loves her and wanted to make a point that even though he yells at her, he really loves her, and just didn't know how else to say it. I really think that's it. He just was mad that she doesn't know exactly how much her dad loves her. And you sound conceited when you say that you thought you are his favorite. Parents usually seem to favor one kid, but it is usually not true that they actually mean to have a favorite. He loves you all.
Oh my gosh! I'm sorry! I saw notinyourdream's column, and she had said that she had a question that was titled "Is it true?"! I really, really thought this was it! SORRRY!!!
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You're right it doesn't make sense.
I asked my mom this, and she said they don't yell at you because they love you more. They yell because they know their other kids are better off & you're the one they want to help. I totally understand where my mom is coming from. She yells at me more than she does my brother, and I see why.
Out of my brother and I...I am the one who would rather do things my way. My brother will do what he's told. I'm more into having fun & living on the edge. My brother plays it safe & worries more. My mom knows my brother is better off than I am because of the things he does, so she yells at me more to hope I start to listen.
I can understand where you're dad is coming from, but parents don't play favorites. And if they do, then they're a bad parent. You should always love your kids equally.
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None of that makes any sense.
Problem number one: The idea that someone is loved 'best'. Love isn't like pie. You don't get a smaller peice because your brother gets a bigger peice. Love is just LOVE. Parents SHOULD have a boundless ammount of it for all thier children, even if they don't have boundless patience.
Problem number two: That your father would even jokingly say something like this gives me a pretty damn good idea why you are the only one who 'likes him'. I wouldn't like my father much if he played favorites.
Problem number three: While his comment was sort of 'nice' it doesn't actually support your cousin or help her in anyway at all.
Ignore this comment and don't worry about it. Your Dad said something that was pretty dumb and actually doesn't make any sense. I hope he only meant it as a joke. Don't worry about which kid he loves 'the most'. Just love him and you'll be fine, even when you yell at eachother or when you don't.
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