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self-centered friend
16/f
okay i have a friend who's 16 too, we've known each other since last year. she's a junior and im a sophomore but we're in the same lunch and the same math class so we spend a lot of time together during the day. we also have a lot in common like we both play a (different) sport and we're both smart and we're both totally into dressing up for school.
her flaw is..SHES SO SELF CENTERRED! she never takes interest in me. she doesnt know what type of music i like, she never asks about my games, or takes any interest in anything i do, even though i do. she always talks about herself all the time. sometimes when im sharing something shell just zone out and suddenly say something completely offtopic from what im saying. then ill tell her to pay attention to me, then shell say "i am!" but she really isnt. sometimes when i try to change the topic to me she'll just be like "oh..that's good" and then comtinue talking about herself. its such a turnoff. like if you listen to one of our usual conversations its one of these 3 things:
-her doing all the talking with me trying to get a word in but her interuppting me, or
-me talking but she only says "yeah" and "uhuh" (unless i was talking about her of course)
actually, sometimes she's annoying because she's really slow to understand things. like i have to repeat something over and over for her to get it.
basically shes a nice friend but her flaws, being too self-centered and being slow piss me off. what should i do?
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You can talk to her about her flaws (I would leave out the being 'slow' part, she likely can't do anything at all about that.)
Or you can accept her flaws and continue on the same way as you have been.
Or you can choose not to talk to her as much anymore.
That sort of sums up your options.
Don't try to 'give her a taste of her own medicine'. She wont get the hint. Either be clear about YOUR problem, not hers, by telling her "I don't feel like you are listening to me right now" or "I really need to talk about *thingthatisimportanttome* right now." or probably the best "I really need someone to listen to me right now." Or accept she wont change, and move on.
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ha. welcome to my world. lol i had a friend like that too. except she was fat. anyway, i would just stop talking to her. or better yet, give her a taste of her own medicine, when she talks about her, just be like "yeah, uhhuh. sure. yup" give her the hint. dont let her take advantage of you, i mean not to say she has already but she may in the future. good luck.
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