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Parents R Racist!!
My parents are divorced, but still have the same ideas on alot of stuff. I am white. I have blonde hair and blue eyes. My parents both say that i can not like(have a crush on), date, or marry anyone who is Black, "Mexican"(I tell them all the time "HISPANIC"), Chinese, or Mixed. The thing is, I like ALOT of people! About half of which are not white. Its not because I like other colors, I just happen to like these people. my parents say they will disown me if i ever marry someone not white. The boy I am crazy about is Hispanic. I have a lot of different colored friends. So racism realy offends me. But whenever i mention this, they get mad. What can I do!
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You shouldnt worry. parents go through these things but they get over it. trust me i had that happen to me. but after a while they will let you hang out with them and then pretty soon after that they will let you date them.
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There's not much you can do for now. I'm not sure how old you are because you didn't include your age, but it's obvious you're still living at home. Honestly, don't tell your parents the races of your friends. If they don't know, they can't get upset, can they? To tell you the truth though, you're living under their roof so you need to follow their rules.
When you move out, date & marry who you want. Once you don't live with them anymore, their opinions & beliefs won't control your life & you'll be alright.
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While I agree with the others that unfortunately you are stuck with them until you're able to move out and support yourself it is awful that you have to go through this. Don't rock the boat. Avoid conversations about race/ethnicity and do your best to not let the negative comments of your parents get under your skin. You don't mention how old you are, but you won't be stuck there forever and once you leave you never have to go back if you don't want to.
So what else can you do in the meantime? Stay busy. Start playing a sport, join a club, get a part time job, or whatever else sparks your interest to keep you out of the house. Become the busiest, overachieving kid you possibly can if it means not having to be at home and surrounded by such negativity. Also try not to subject your friends or crushes to your parents. Your parents certainly can't stop you from socializing with others, but don't bring them to the house. When you're stuck with your parents during one of their negative rants excuse yourself from the room. You have homework, want to read, practice your instrument, or whatever it is that you can use as a valid excuse for not sitting there with them.
I know its hard, but you'll get through this.
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I think you will have to agree to disagree on this subject for the moment. Many people are prejudiced and it is up to people like you to try and educate them. Sadly, if your parents are that prejudiced then there is not a lot you can do for them. They will learn to accept any partner you choose if they want to be involved in your life. However, you are still very young at the moment and maybe with time they will change their minds. If you find a partner that is not of their liking because of colour, they are the ones that will lose out on any future grandchildren and I don't think they could be that hard-hearted.
The only time I feel that you should respect their wishes on the subject of unsuitable partners is if they are concerned about your welfare and safety (regardless of creed or colour).
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