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Date or Don't Date
A few of the teens at my church won't date anybody when they're in high school, b/c they think it's pointless... but some of them will date in high school; I've dated people before, but I'm starting to see the other people's pov (the one's that won't date anybody), but I really like someone, and I don't know if I should date while I'm in high school or wait like SOME of the people at my church.... any ideas?
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I think that the whole, "Pointless highschool dating" is another way of trying to not get hurt. You can't avoid dating altogether because you might get burned.
I think that dating is very important. More than important. It lets you know what you like, and don't. It gives you experience for future dating. I think the only part you should truly avoid in highschool is sex. I'm not telling anyone what to do, but you'd be surprised by how much that can effect you. Dating is ok now and it's far from pointless. It's helpful and you should absolutely go for it when the opportunity presents itself. And if these teens look the other way from you for this, too bad, this is your decision and you make it:)
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I know a few people who think the same way. They feel that the purpose of dating is to find a husband/wife... and if you aren't ready to get married, then why date? I can see their point in a way, but I don't totally agree with it.
Dating is a learning experience. You learn how to make a relationship work; you learn about trust and commitment, how to handle different problems, what works and what doesn't. And these are all important lessons you'll take with you when you're ready to make a lifelong commitment to someone.
Dating also gives you a chance to see what kind of person you ultimately want to be with. Nobody is perfect, but there are some flaws you can live with, and some you can't. Dating different guys gives you a chance to learn not only about guys, but about yourself, and what you really want and need from a relationship.
Another point. I've know some girls who were pretty sheltered through high school (they were gymnasts and didn't have time to date). Once they got to college, they were like, "Whoa... Men!!" and they went a little crazy. They hadn't learned how to handle themselves around guys, or how to fend off a guy's advances, and they ended up doing some things they probably regretted. When you start dating earlier, you learn to handle guys step by step, in more innocent situations.
So yeah, I think there's a lot to be said for dating in high school. But whatever you decide, do it because you want to and feel right about it. Don't let the fear of being "judged" by others affect your decision.
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I think you should totally go with your heart. You should make your own desion if you want to date you should and have a clear consious about it Just cause your in high scool isnt a reason not to day. You only live once and high school is only 4 years might has well enjoy it.
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If you like someone and you WANT to date them, then why not? People have different opinions and views on things and some of the people at your church find it pointless. Maybe they haven't found the right person? Do you feel it's pointless.. I mean if you do then I wouldn't suggest dating that person. You could end up really liking this person. Just try it and see how things go. If you're not happy, you can always end the relationship.
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Ha , I am the same postion as you .
I don't at all agree with dating at are age , I find it pointless . I don't need to date anyone and usually realtionships in highschool dont last long , Making it sad when you do break up . And I really don't need to deal with that .
On the other hand if my "crush" asked me out I don't know what I would say .
Persoanally , I would wait . If you are this confused I would wait , You are oviously not ready if you are decideing . Though , You are being very mature to think of this as a problem .
Just wait until the time comes , You will know what you will do when it comes up .
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