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Should i be upset?
okay lately i learned from a friend that a really close teacher/friend of mine was a lesbian. She hadn't wanted students to know but she confided in teachers and told them not to tell ANYONE! But my friends mom, who works at the school and is a teacher, told her daughters all about it and how she went to her gfs home town to get married to her. Then my friend blabbed it too me. Now im furious and i hate my friends mother for being so unprofesional since i know how that could ruin someones career. But the mother also happens to be my scout leader and i have to see her tommorow. how should i handle this?
* by the way don't bother telling me that my friend had the right to know: its none of their buisness and the teacher has worked there for 18 years.
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It's really nice of you to be concerned for this teacher, nobody should treat her different because of her sexuality. People like your friends mom never seize to disappoint me because what she did really is wrong and like you said, unprofessional. Also, your friend had no right to know either. If this "gossip" begins interfering with that teachers career, then you really should consider confronting the scout leader and/or deciding if you still want to be a scout.. does it mean alot to you? Also, think if there's any greater authority in the school you could talk about this to? Could the principle help in any way if you stay anonymous? You have options, just do what feels right, I know it's hard to be furious with someone older such as a parent.
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You need to seperate the two situations. This person is both ur scout leader and the person who wrecked your teachers career. Are you so upset that it will effect your scoutness? Or, can you seperate the situations so that one dosent affect the other. It depends how upset you are. Do you feel like if she blabbed this, shell tell stuff you tell her? If so, dont tell her things. See how upset you are, and how far your willing to take it. Nobody can decide that for you. If you never want to talk to her again, fine. If you want to yell at her, fine.
Also, you might want to to think about the fact that being lesbian is nothing to be ashamed of. I understand this teacher wanted it private, but if she thought she was doing somthing wrong, she wouldnt have dont it.
Your moms friend broke the trust by telling your friend. But what about your friend? She also disrespected the teacher. You might want to talk to her also
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well.. its also none of your business and i dont think you should worry about it. i know youre trying to protect your teacher but if shes lesbian and married she shouldnt have to hide it. its okay for the mother to have told her daughter, my mom tells me stuff other women to say to her all the time. your friend should have respected her mother and not told you. and if you guys both dont tell anyone else.. the secret should be safe.
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