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How to know if I should go for it or not.
I'm having a crisis of faith at the moment.
I've been dating this guy for over a year. And I guess things are getting a little stale.
I've met this boy Dan, who is very similar to me.
And to me, he's more attractive than my current boyfriend. He has a lip ring and a mohawk, and thus more my'type'.
And lately I've been feeling really attached to him, and I think I like him.
It's just, I have a really great thing going with my current boyfriend,and I don't know what i should do.
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Well sweetie the truth is many people feel the way that you feel but most of the time they are to afraid to admit it. Its a good thing that ur admiting your true feelings. Your not a bad person just because you feel this way but what you need to do is really think about this, dont rush into anything. You need to figure out which guy means more to you? I know that deep down you have the answer to that question. If the other guy means more to you then you need to let your boyfriend know because its not fair to him. If your afraid of the other guy rejecting you and thats whats holding you back from breaking up with your boyfriend then you should still end things with him because the truth is you dont love him enough.
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Stay with someone long enough, and it's inevitable that at some point you'll think things are stale. This is what happens in longterm relationships. Now, don't get me wrong. I don't mean to paint a doom-and-gloom picture without any excitement, fun, or real connection.
But most relationships do reach a point when the people in them need to make a committment to keeping things alive. This could be doing new things together, or whatever else takes your fancy. Alternately, longterm relationships offer a lot of benefits that are missing in new ones.
New relationships are amazing - that dizzy feeling, the excitement, how wonderful it all is. But perhaps there's something to be said for the beauty of two people really knowing each other, being there for each other, etc.
It can be tough to figure out if what you are feeling is a normal dip in a relationship, or it is signalling something more serious. It's quite normal to be attracted to other people even when you're really love in with your partner. The question is, how much have you invested in your partner? How much are you getting from the relationship? And while you use your head to answer these, it's important to also use your heart.
I wish you the best.
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First, I want you to forget about Dan. Think about your current boyfriend and think hard about if you could picture you and him together for another few months. Now, think what you like your current boyfriend and what you don't like. Make a list and write them down. Then forget about your current boyfriend and think about Dan. Try to picture yourself going out with him. Would you like it?? Now write down all of the reasons why you like him and why you don't. The majority wins.
What my opinion is, first see if Dan like you. But be careful and make sure that your current boyfriends doesn't get any ideas. Then just let the magic work its way to the prize.
I hope I helped!
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