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I'm 15/f and school recently just started for me (freshman in high school... new school for me). It started out about 2 weeks ago when in one of my classes, we were getting quizzes back and I was still waiting for the teacher to call my name. Then I heard the teacher say this guys name. We will call him Blake in this story. So he stood up and went to claim his quiz, and when I looked at him... I was seriously like *whoa* he was so hot and I really like him. He's not like SUPER hot, like who always gets girls attention... but in my world he is hot. So I asked my friend if she knew him and she said yeah, he lives in her neighborhood. He plays hockey and during some days I kept an eye on him, just to see what he is like... and I found that he is really nice and always smiling and joking around. I really want to get to know him more.... I had a chance about 3 days ago because we were correcting papers and we had partners... my friend told me to go up to him and ask him to trade papers, but I got freaked out so i switched with another group. :(
I'm always thinking about him and I really want to get him to make the first move. My mom tells me that it's not appropriate for girls to make the first move, and I should let him start. So I've been a little flirty around him.. like laughing near him, sitting a few feet away from him, staring at him, whispering about him when he's a little far away.... etc.
Is there anything else I can do so that he will make the first move and notice me?
Oh and in class about 5 days ago, we were watching a movie and so there was this boring part and I was just looking at everyone else in the classroom, then I turn to look at blake, and he's looking at me, or at least I think he was. Oh and another time was that he was a few feet away from me and so some guy was talking to the person next to blake, and so I overheard and looked at the 2 guys having the conversation, then I looked at blake and he was looking at me. :) is this a sign?
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? orphans answered Monday October 15 2007, 9:32 pm: You seem really serious about this guy, and that's good. At least your not liking this guy just because of his looks. First, you need to take a deep breath when your around him and don't panic, like I do, lol. If he doesn't take the first move, then you won't have any opportunities anymore, and that will make you feel horrible! Keep on flirting with him, and try to make it more noticable each time. Ask your friends to talk to him and maybe they can figure out who he likes or get a hint. Your friends can ask him like, "How's School? Any girls you like?" Something simple. Even though it might be inappropriate to make the first move, you will loose your opportunity. Make your move, but make is smooth and not stalkish. If he's looking at you, give him a little smile. This might sound childish, but drop your pencil near his desk, and maybe he will help you. Give him the opporunity to talk to you, so it soudns like he's making the moves. [ orphans's advice column | Ask orphans A Question ]
junebug93 answered Saturday October 13 2007, 6:46 pm: To get this guy to notice you you should probably actually talk to him when you are checking him out, sitting a few seats behind him laughing really loudly. And whispering about him probably isn't the best way to attract a guy - I mean, it might make him feel uncomfortable to know that people are talking about him behind his back. It may confuse him, because you could easily be talking about him in a bad way, in his mind. The same goes for always following him around without saying anything to him. This is likely intimidating to him, instead of attractive.
Instead, be upfront. If you were trying to be FRIENDS with a guy you wouldn't go through the whole "Should I talk to him? Should I pretend to avoid him so he'll notice me?" dance. And I'm not sure what your mom was referring to but I'm pretty sure that it's okay to have conversations with guys. So talk to him. Say hi to him when you see him in the halls. Maybe ask him if he's good at hockey, and what position he plays. Try to be a friendly person, instead of the person randomly looking at him all of the time. Sure, sometimes this is alluring, but he's more likely to "make a move" or ask you out if he actually knows who you are.
And on making the "first move", there are so many first moves, first time you talk, first mutual smile, first eye contact, first date, first kiss. Guys aren't really capable of leading a two person relationship on their own, so go ahead, and figure out what works for you. [ junebug93's advice column | Ask junebug93 A Question ]
xomegaroni answered Saturday October 13 2007, 5:27 pm: I think you should just try to be friends with him first. Try talking to him randomly during class. Maybe go over to your friend's house & plan to hang out with him. If you talk a few times a week, he'll start to notice you more. I don't think guys should be the only ones to make the first move, even though we all wish it was that way. Girls can too though. Be friendly towards him & see where things go from there. If he isn't making the first move, just ask him to hang out sometime.
wisemen answered Saturday October 13 2007, 5:04 pm: well some guys dont like to make the first move but thats up to you but him starting to look at you is sort of a sign that he is interested just start to small talk with him about what he is like and stuff and then see if you like him because sometimes when we get something we really wanted it wasn't that great but just small talk with him. Hope all goes well! [ wisemen's advice column | Ask wisemen A Question ]
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