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i feel like everybody hates me
16/f (sophomore)
NOTE:: if you dont feel like reading me vent for a paragraph skip down to the question
mk so this past month in school ive been trying to make new friends, but it hasnt worked AT ALL. i want to have friends that will laugh at my jokes at the right times, also friends that arent too clingy..or friends that will talk to me when things are serious. i know in my heart that im not shy, im actually majorly outgoing with EVERYBODY. for example, on my school sports team everytime i try to talk to someone i feel like im being snubbed..and i feel so worn down because of it and it makes me feel as if its my fault for being too sensitive. they are all nice people too. thought it would be EASIER to make friends when i got on a sports team but apparently not! :((
right now i feel stuck and i feel like crying/pulling my hair out in frustration because i really wanted to make fun friends this year but it's mid october and i have no idea why ive made not one good friend!!! =[[[ sighh i feel like crying. honestly. ive been in this school district for 8 years and even though i am crazy outgoing and i join lots of clubs and im smart and i have interests and im on sports teams i have not made more than 10 good friends. like what the fuckkkkkkkkkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY ME???
sorry that was super long haha. its just my way of venting! anyway my real question is..if someone i want to be friends with makes me feel kinda intimidated should i stop trying or keep trying to talk to them even though im afraid of talking too much?
thanks. <33333
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I haven't seen you in action, but from your rant, it sounds like maybe you're just trying too hard. If you come off like, "PLLEEEEZZZEEE be my friend, I promise you won't regret it I SWEAR!" that can really make people think you're a freak. Overly happy, chatty, upbeat people often come off that way, no matter what they do.
It took me months to make friends when I went to high school. I had to find my niche, my group of people who totally identified with me. I tried joining student gov't, sports teams, after school clubs... Then I realized one day, school was really about learning, growing and achieving so I could have a bright future. My friends would come as I just relaxed and got into my own groove. Sure enough, I concentrated on what was really important, and found friends along the way who were just what I needed and wished for.
Moral of the story - relax and get into your own groove. Like attracts like, so as you become more "genuine" your personality will too, and people who dig your motivation and dedication will befriend you for a lot of the right reasons.
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Okay yeah im going thru the same thing right now becuase i just moved eveyone seems stuck up to me because thay act like there the best and stuff yeah i know how you feel i only have about 6 friends down here and i dont hang out with them that much pretty much once a week if that and weekends i sit home doing nothing :(
anyways
just be like HEY :)
and whats your name and start talking to them
and stuff thats what always works for me;;
trust me you will make friends
at school while your doing w/e your doing talk to people eveeyday you see that person talk to them as much as you can be like whats up
and talk be like what did you do this week?
and after awhile you guys will get close
i hang with nothing but guys becuase girls have to much drama and the guys im with have girlfriends and friends that are girls like me and we hang out try talking to the guys
hope i helped!
and no one hates you
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I understand how you feel, you shouldn't get stressed about what you have now. you have 10 friends that good enough i beileve. You know the best friends are best in small groups, that way you'll always be close together, other wise those big crowds you see poeple with all the time will always end up in drama. Why else would people go to the movies in small groups than big ones, some people stray away and make eachother go after one another over a dissagrement. You shouldn't stress, It will really affect you in the long run. I would suggest taking a deep breath and say quietly " i let go" say it enough times till it turns louder and louder till you truely mean it. " I LET GO !!!!!" menaing that you let go of all worries and woe to have a better day tomorrow. It really works, also just talk to people like people. gain respect by giving respect ya know? anyway i hope you'll take my advice into consideration. You'll be fine cuase i have faith in your abilities ^^ take care and let me know how it goes
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Excuse me if this sounds mean.
You said youve made 10 good friends. Thats not good enough? I kno, you want big groups of friends but i think your going to lose the friends that you have now by nelglecting them.
You might want to build up the relationships that you already have. Make them your perfect friends. Just enjoy your life and appreciate what youve got. The rest will come. Dont attack people, dont be pushy but be friendly. Say hi to people in the hallways. Remember peoples names. Introduce yourself. If your partnered with sum1 for a project, dont overload them but be nice, and they will like you. They wont be your best friend, but theyl like you. You can get what ypou want and it dosent have to take a long time but it has 2be gradual . Just love and appreciate your life, and the rest will come.
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