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My friends are really mean :(
15/f. About a week ago, my friend [A] told me that she was going to set me up with the guy that I like. I knew this wasn't a good idea, because we're not the BEST of friends. I was VERY reluctant, but since she was all "Oh, don't worry...It'll work out ;)" I couldn't help but wonder and let her go on with it. So, I didn't mention anything to her about him. We only see him in one class. The thing is, this guy doesn't even know me and we never talk. Now, here comes the problem. My friend A told her other friend B that I like him. SInce I'm friends with B, I thought nothing of it. I just moved on and ignored it, because I knew it wasn't going to work out and didn't think she was serious about setting me up with the guy. So, two days later, I find out that A told ANOTHER one of her friends, this time, someone who I don't even know : C. So, you know what C does (she's a girl)? C goes up to the guy, and tells him that "some girl named [me] likes you." When A told me this, I was dumbfounded and extremely pissed. I felt so betrayed. A knife has been placed in my back. I trusted A. I let her do this for me because she said it was her pleasure, I shouldn't worry about it and that she wanted to do it and that "you guys BELONG TOGETHER :D" But why the fuck would you tell someone I don't even KNOW then!? Who gave you the right to do that?
I'm so confused, guys...*sigh*..The guy knows that I like him, and now he won't even look at me.
Do you think they did this on purpose to fuck me over?
The thing is, I shrugged it off nicely, while still hurting inside. :(
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I'm not too sure why they did that. That is definately screwed. Of course, they probably didn't mean to, another theory is in fact that they did. But, if it wasn't on purpose, then the least they could've done would to ask your permission first. Yeah, that is very screwed up though. sorry I can't help more.
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This type of thing happens ALOT.
Personally, I don't think "A" set out to hurt you in any way. She just obviously likes to get into your business and try to help you - despite making things worse. Lots of people are like this and alot of the time, they don't realize they're doing something wrong.
I wouldn't break up your friendship with this girl, but you need to make her understand not to do anything like that again.
Give everything a bit more time to blow over. If you think it's really necessary, have a chat with the boy you like and say sorry - and that you didn't have anything to do with it.
Things will turn out fine in the end. Also, in the future, don't trust this girl so easily.. and don't tell her anything which you don't want to get out. I think she needs to start building back your trust for her.
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I know EXACTLY how you feel. My "Best friend" does that to me. She goes around telling random people who I like. I don't do that to her so why should she do that to me?
Just tell that chick to stop. You trusted her and now she has given you a reason to NOT trust her. I mean she can't control what "C" does but like you said, why should she tell someone who you like when you don't even know the person?
It'll be tough and even though you shouldn't have to just keep things about this boy to yourself and don't share it with your 'friends' because if they are going to do stuff like that to you, then why bother sharing stuff with them?
Good luck.
<3
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nobody should do that to a friend.
whether it's tell the boy they like or tell someone that they have a weird habit or something.
honestly you're better off without them.
& if you cant completley avoid them then just don't tell them anything you don't want anyone else to know.
in the mean time, join a club or something & make some new friends.
good luck! :)
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