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Dealing with losses of every kind.
In one day .. I lost my best friend to her old drinking habits with the wrong crowd, my boyfriend of eighth months and I broke up, and my grandma died. I feel so alone, my boyfriend moved on in one day. He claims he still loves me, but he's already asked another girl to the dance. He finds every way to rub it in my face. I try not to let it get to me but its so hard. I think about him all the time, despite the fact I'm the one that called it quits after months of emotional abuse. Why is it that he was the one that made my life miserable, and he's getting the happy ending? How do I get over this and become happy again?
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I can tell you right now that things are going to be hard, but you seem to be having what I would call the worst day ever.
Let's start piece by piece. Your best friend got sucked into her old habits of drinking. You need to have a talk with her. I realize alcohol may seem like a great release & everything, but you need to tell her & get it into her head that it's not. Alcohol is a depressant drug & it makes people do stupid things. Some people are fun drunks, some are happy & some are sad drunks, some are even angry, violent drunks but all people who are drunks are dumb. Confront your friend about these things & tell her it's for her own good. If she doesn't listen to you, tell a counselor & suggest she get some so that they can help her properly.
As for your boyfriend, guys are cruel. They're mean, inconsiderate, rude & even underemotional [chances are, I made that word up. If so, cool!]. Guys will do anything to a girl & almost always not end up feeling bad for it. Honestly, you should be happy the relationship is over. This guy abused you for months & terrorized you, yet you're sad? I don't get it. I think you need to rethink yourself & even get some counseling yourself. Every problem you've got right now needs counseling.
As for your grandmother, I'm SO sorry. My boyfriend passed away last month, so I'm really sorry & I know almost exactly how you feel. It hurts to lose someone so close to you & to have to deal with all the pain & heartbreak. All you should be telling yourself is that it's not your fault, there's nothing you can do & that at least she's not suffering anymore. It'll still hurt but it should somewhat ease the pain you're feeling.
I'm not sure exactly what to say to you except that things get better with time, and you should take things as they come. Don't rush happiness, or anything because it won't come immeadiately. Dealing with things like this takes a lot of time & you'll go through a lot of stages. I hope you feel better & if you ever need to talk, I'm here.
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I'm sorry dear, you are going through a very hard time for a teenager to go through.
You know the quote that everyones, but it's the only thing that can keep you going. "Time heals ALL wounds." It may not seem like it now, and you probably hate me for saying it. You CAN get over it darling. If you can't remember this event in 20 years, then it's not important to worry about.
Best thing for you best friend is to let her go. I got when you said "old drinking habbits" that this has happened before. If this is something she wants to do, then let it be. But don't snub her, if she needs help with anything, let her in with open arms, but don't get your hopes up high that things can go back to normal.
Boys come and go. Their minds work totally different than ours. Too bad there is no cure to stupidity, but there is always a cure for a broken heart. Moping around will not help, so stay active. Run, work out, homework, make more friends! Anything to keep your mind off it. I'm not going to say you have to ignore what he is saying, since I know how hard that is, but act like it's not a big deal. If he says something, be like "Oh that's cool." Say hi to him still, don't be the bad guy. Maybe take a break from talking to him for a while, but when you come in contact with one another, be friendly.
Everyday is a clean slate. Think of your positives. Remember..
Everything will be fine in the end.
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