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He was hurting me, what should i do?
ok well the other night me and my bf were in a fight and he got really mad and grabbed my arms and started shaking me. i yelled at him to stop and he did, and then later we worked out what we were fighting about. but anyway. i told my mom about it and she said i shouldve left right then and told him if he ever did anything like that again it would be over. and she still wants me to tell him that, and ya i know shes right. but now i feel weird about bringing it up cuz it happened a few days ago and everythings fine now. so do you think i should still say something about it? and how should i bring it up? or should i just wait and see if it ever happens again and then tell him that? we've been together for 2 years and thats the first time hes ever done something like that.
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You should never feel weird bringing up something that bothers you to your boyfriend. You should deffinately give him the heads up on what you think about what happened because next time could be too late. Your boyfriend should of NEVER layed a hand on you and you need to make sure he knows that. If it happened once, it will happen again- as painful as that is to think about. Its important that he knows that it isnt acceptable because if you dont say anything now he could take advantage of you again and it could be worst. Im not saying your boyfriend is a bad person or anything like that, im just saying people dont realize what they are doing when they get angry and he needs to realize that he hurt you- maybe not so much physically, but emotionally. if he loves you and cares about you, he will stop and understand and listen to what you have to say. I dont ever want to see your story on a Lifetime movie so I hope you take my advice and go with it... Good luck.
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Well, the simple fact is he assaulted you.
Why wait for the next time? If it happens again, do you realize you are apt to say, "Oh, we worked it out, but if it happens again..."
Honestly? I don't think you should tell him anything but "Goodbye."
Why? What if 2 years from now, instead of getting angry and shaking you, he just gets angry and caves your face in? Will you leave, or be to afraid to?
Keep that in mind.
I'm not saying he will do it again, but if he assaulted you once, there's a good chance he'll do it twice. Three times. Fifty.
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He was wrong to do that and I think he realized, seeing as when you told him to stop, he did.
I would still bring it up though. It doesn't matter if it's the first time he's done it. If he's capable once, he could be capable again.
Casually bring it up.
"What happened to you the other day?"
Simple as that.
There could be alot of reasons why he did it. I hope it doesn't happen again though.
Can't be doing with abusive boyfriends..
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