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I'm sorry if this is kinda long.
I've been going out with my bf for about 6/7 months now, and he was a virgin before and I wasn't. About two months into it we had sex, mainly initiated by me, and it's like he can't get enough of it! I just basically played up to it at first. About a month ago we had just had sex and I told him I loved him because I did. He went quiet for like a few minutes and then he said that he would wait until he truly meant it to say it to me, blah blah blah. This hurt me but as he was only being mature I just accepted it. Ever since then he never gives me any compliments that isn't to do with me being sexy or being good at something sexual etc, he although he does hang out with me if sex isn't involved I clearly get the vibe that he's not having much fun and if there is ever a possibility for something like that we WILL do it. I'm beginning to feel like I'm being used. The thing is, I do genuinely love him, and I'm wondering if I'm just being oversensitive cos he didn't tell me he loved me - he's got a reputation as being this really nice and decent guy, and it's not like he pressured me into sex to start with! It would really upset me if I had to split up with him! There's this other guy I've been chatting to a lot recently who's really nice to me and I think he likes me for the right reasons as well - I would NEVER cheat on my bf but it's opening up my eyes to what's out there. As you see I need some help :( Thank you! .xoxo
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He lost his virginity to you and you are angry because he's acting wierd? What the fuck? And would you rather a meaningful 'I love you' later, or a lie now? Think about it... I don't want to be rude, but you've got to understand what virginity means to some, and what sex can do to a relationship.
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personally i wouldnt be able to handle the situation you are in. i am so on and off about sex.
first off, boys are boys. if hes just realized how sex feels, it is going to be on the top of his priority list. i dont think he sees it as him using you. you arent being oversensitive because anyone would be upset in this situation. try and see it from the outside. if there are any signs of guilt because he didnt pressure you and you wanted to, i think you should stop feeling that way. if you dont want to have sex or be sexual as much as you are, that is the way you feel and he should respect it.
i think a person in a relationship should always keep their eyes a little open to what is out there, you want to make sure you have the best of the best. good luck.
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Before ya go giving this new guy a halo and a pair of wings remember that you never really know what a person is like in a relationship until you are in one with them, and have been for a while.
Secondly. Talk to your boyfriend already! Seriously.
Talk out your feelings and see if he'll here them out. A lot of relationships, even adult relationships, go through a similar stage right after becoming sexual active. Give him the heads up that you are feeling a bit unappreciated and would like a bit more attention and affection of the non-sexual variety. Because you are so sexual and go to go yourself, he might just need a reminder that not all your needs lie in that department.
Give your boyfriend a fair chance and tell him where you stand and what you would like to see. Don't attack him, just explain yourself calmly. Then listen while he explains himself too. Hear him out. Some guys will surprise you with their depth and understanding.
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First of all I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm going to assume you're older than 13 but younger than 20. It seems to me that your boyfriend is simply being a horny teenage boy. It seems genuine when he states that he wants to wait till the right time to say I love you, because he wants to mean it. I believe he is telling you the truth. However, it seems like all he's after righ now is sex and it seems like you're looking for something more than just sex. You're young, you're not married, and you're becomming interested in another guy. So, here's what I think you need to do, be straight up with him, simply ask is this relationship going anywhere, or is it only based on sex? If all he wants is sex, maybe you should cut the strings with him and pursue a relationship with someone looking for the same things you are. If he wants more than sex, smack him upside the head and tell him that he better step it up. I really hope my advice helps and good luck with everything!!!!
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