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hiding my bad habit
ok...so i used to smoke while i was in high school but i quit 2 years ago. well i have been stressed lately and today, on my way to work, i bought a pack of ciggarettes and smoked two today. I feel bad cuz i have not told my bf and i dont want him to know. I feel sneaky and like a liar but if i told him he would be mad at me. Its not like i plan on smoking for a long time...just occasionally to help me with stress (when he isnt around). is it wrong of me? what should i do?
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Okay, ill tell you the point of view from your boyfriend, because I was in that situation. My boyfriend smoked a LOT at one point, but when we started dating seriously he quit because I find it repulsive, its so bad for his health in the long run, makes him stink, and we dont want our kids around it. Well I was packing his lunch one day and went to pack it for his motorcycle and found TWO packs of cigarettes. Now I understand (as im sure your boyfriend would too) that if something is wrong and you feel that you NEED a cigarette, that is one thing. But dont hide it, because it only causes WAY more problems with the fact that you hid it, the fact that your sneaking around. Its almost like, whats next you know? What will you hide next? type of thing. So I think you need to just say "Hey, Ive been really stressed out lately, I bought a pack of cigarettes, will you help me?" That way he sees you arent trying to hide anything from him, that you know its not okay, but also that there are some things going on with you, that maybe he could help you with, better than a ciggarette could. Now the bigger problem here, is that you feel that you NEED a cigarette. You should try finding something different, like maybe some gum, or a type of candy or snack that you can keep with you, and every time your needing a cigarette, grab one of those. Its all in your head you know, only you can calm you down. You dont need a cigarette to feel happy, or pretty, or gathered. You shouldnt pay money to kill your body, there are plenty of things we do everyday that contributes to that just fine. I know things will be okay :] Good luck!
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Take some advice from someone who smokes, your worry shouldn't be whether your boyfriend knows or not. The more important thing is finding a better coping technique to deal with your stress. The last thing you want is to become addicted to smoking. And before you say I won't, consider this: everyone that starts smoking thinks they are just going to have one or two. Then that becomes three or four....and so on. So do yourself the favor and just don't have the one or two. In other words, stop now while you can, before you just have another problem to worry about!
Instead try to figure out what it is that's stressing you and address this problem. If the problem can't be fixed, work on some healthier ways to deal with it. Trust me please, I started smoking when I was your age and I wish I had someone that made me quit before I got as addicted as I am.
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yeah it is wronge from you
but its a mistake
anyone could possibly do it
i would say not to tell him
but dont ever do it again..
hope i helped
bye
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Dear Hider,
you should always be honest in a relationship and if he really cares about that much then he wouldnt mind that you smoke and he would understand and try to help you control this bad habit.
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