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Ok so Me and my friend have been bestest friends for 7 years almost 8 and yeah were tight and stuff. She moved like 3 years ago to her house wich is like 2 hours away from me and so now we dont see eachother alot only like once every 2 months. Anywayz when she moved up there then she became friends with alot of ppl and I was happy for her. Well her friends became my friends and so like this chick Amber that were both friends with Has a brother Jesse. Well my bestest friend is like in love with him and he's in love with her. But like a year ago we both liked him and he knew it cause we both told him and he said that he liked both of us 2. So yeah we flirted with him and stuff but then like a couple months after that then he said that he only liked her and I asked him why and he said just cause I live so far away and he hardly see's me. So it took me a while but I finally stoped liking him but I was still like heart broken cause I liked this dude ALOT. Well just like a couple of months ago I started liking him agian and Jesse and my bestest friend are like going out. And I really really dont want to like him but I do and now he is coming in between our frindship and we argue alot and I know that one boy shouldn't ruin a friendship of 7 years. But it is starting to I cant talk to her about anything anymore because she is alwayz talking about what her and Jesse did of something sweet Jesse said to her and like all she wants to do is talk about Jesse or nothing at all. I dont know what to do and I really need some help on how to get our friendship back to how it used to be before Jesse came in.
Kaleigh (15/f)
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tell her how you feel that shes letting a boy come between your friendship because the same thing happened to me i was just like your best friend and my friends all started to not want to be bothered with me and stuff so i had to figure this out on my own and i lost most of my friends but im saying if shes so stucked up with him just stop calling her and sooner or later hes gonna mess up and shes going to come back crying to you about how she needs you and then you tell her how you felt. hope this work it surely worked for me. good luck
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you need to talk to your friend about this. you cant control who you like, but you need to try and focus on something other than him. you need to let your friend know that you are going to try not to think about him, and that you would really appreciate it if she didnt talk to you about him. tell her that you are sorry, and that you know she wants to talk to you bout him because she trusts you and values your conversations, but let her know that its hard for you to hear about him, and it will be easier for you to get over him if you dont hear about him too much. and if in the end you two cant settle this, you have to move on. some friendships arent meant to last forever.
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This may sound a little harsh so I apologize in advance. See, as people grow and move they change to suit their environments. It seems like your friend, even though being friends for 7 years, has began to change. Maybe in a way that could be irreversible. When I met my gf I noticed the change instantly. However, this may not be the case. Try talking to her about the old days when you two used to hang out and try to arrange a camping trip or something fun so you can get together again.
Hope I could help.
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