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not a virgin
yesterday i lost my virginity to this amazing guy that i have been seeing for about 2 months already.
we were dating before but it didn't work out as planned. i'm 15 and he's 18.
when i lost my virginity, afterwards i was emotional because i felt dirty and slutty.
is that normal?
and where can you get the morning after pill?
we used a condom and it didnt break,but just to make sure.
thanks .
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In my experience, if you feel dirty and slutty after engaging in sexual relations with someone then you have a reason to feel that way.
It should not be normal to feel this way and it's sad to see so many young girls below answering that they felt the same. I do admit that I've been in this situation and it has taken me years to figure out exactly why I felt that way.
The reason you feel dirty and slutty is because your conscience is screaming at you that what you have done was very wrong. Good reasoning for feeling this way is that deep inside you know you're too young to be having sex and that this type of relationship only leads to a troubled adulthood.
Feeling dirty and slutty isn't really normal. You only feel this way if deep inside you feel it was wrong. It is a fact that when people feel slutty/dirty/whorish they reach out to people they feel will accept their actions and tell them that they are not doing anything wrong. Advicenators is pretty well-known for their abundance of uneducated sexual interaction with others.
The problem with friends with benefits is that people tend to become emotionally attached at some point, usually females. When this happens it seems that the person simply cannot grasp that a real relationship is not forming and is not there. They tend to become very depressed and may even obsess over their sexual partner, hoping for some glimmer of a relationship--which, by the way, can never be strong if it were to form because the entire basis for (at least) one person would be sex. Maybe you feel slutty because inside you KNOW that there will never be anything between you and this guy now.
When you interact sexually with a person that is not your partner (especially married partner or long-term partner) it does put a stigma on you. The person will perceive you as sexual and empty. They see that you will make them feel good physically but have nothing else to really offer them. Most, if not all, of these sort of relationships burn out quickly. Deep inside you KNOW you don't want to perceived in this manner.
These types of relationships tend to mess with a person's ability to affectively communicate with people that they are not engaging in sexual relations with. It's very unhealthy and degrades a person to where they have no self-esteem, leading them to be more promiscuous.
I suggest you discontinue sexual activity with people you are not actually partnered with. It really sounds like you rushed into things completely unprepared mentally. You are hurting your mentality of relationships. If you continue you will mix sex and love up for each other--leading to some VERY painful situations. Please trust me.
I know deep inside you feel you did bad or you wouldn't be concerned over those feelings. Please stop doing this to yourself. It will go away once you start killing off your conscience.
People who engage in these sorts of relationships tend to be left with depression, suicidal thoughts, and very poor self-esteem. Many people end up in therapy, trying to figure out why they are so unhappy with their lives years after these relationships have ended. It makes a person end up feeling like they are disposable--and you, most definately, are not.
To purchase Plan B you will need to ask a pharmacist for it, as they do not place it on the shelves. Plan B is stocked by all major pharmacy chains, but be sure to call ahead to make sure that it available in your pharmacy. You can go to this site, input your zip-code, and you should be able to see where Plan B is sold in your area:
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Girls younger than 18 need a doctor's prescription. However, anyone 18 or older--male or female--can buy the OTC product. You may need to show identification to a pharmacist.
After taking these pills, be prepared for possible side effects. Some side effects that are associated with Emergency Contraception:
1. A female's next period may be earlier or later than usual
2. Nausea and vomiting may occur
3. Her flow may be lighter, more spotty, heavier, or the same as usual
4. A female may experience headaches
5. Breast tenderness could be common
6. Dizziness is also common
Just as a note, typical use of a condom means that it's only actually about 88% effective on preventing pregnancy. Also note that condoms do not protect against ANY std/sti so you are at high risk for many diseases and infections.
If you ever decide to take birth control pills, be aware that they are only actually 92% effective on preventing pregnancy with typical usage.
"Safe" sex is not nearly as safe as the media would like us to believe. ;)
I hope you alter your behavior so that you're not regretful years down the road for what you've done to yourself. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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yes darl first time sex to someone who didn't turn out how you expected makes some girls feel dirty and slutty just like masturebating don't worry sweety it will passthat is normal go to chemists to get it or a clinic there are many wherever you live check it in phone directries, its a good idea to get on that to make sure your not pregnant.
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Honestly, if you're with someone you love & completely trust, you shouldn't ever feel dirty & slutty. It should be the most amazing thing you share with a person & feeling any kind of disgust or regret is probably not a good sign.
The morning after pill is available at any clinic or a Planned Parenthood clinic & is effective up to 72 hours after sex. Good to see that you are making an effort to protect yourself, but don't do anything that makes you feel slutty in the end.
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It's normal for girls to get emotional after losing there virginity. I did. It's a huge moment in your life that you are going to probably remember forever, so of course you are emotional. It's like a stepping stone in some ways. But you felt dirty? Slutty? That's not good. You shouldn't feel like that. It should have been a special experience that made you feel good about yourself, not bad. Maybe there are some unresolved issues? I'm not sure. But if sex makes you feel that way, don't continue doing it.
And if you are having sex, you have to take the risks. Always use a condom, and if you are that worried about pregnancy, get put on birth control. Don't take PlanB. It's supposed to be used for emergencies. IE, you didn't use any protection, your protection didn't work, etc. You shouldn't have to use this pill in your life no more than once if any.
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It's common, though not good, to feel dirty after sex. It could mean you weren't ready for sex, among other reasons.
If the condom didn't break, then there's no need for the morning after pill. I believe the statitics are your 90-99 percent protected if a condom was used.
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