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ok so you've heard it before, i like my best guy friend but he's sort of involved with someone. a few months ago i was going to tell him i liked him and as i opened my mouth to say it he said "so i heard so and so likes me" so i never ended up telling him i liked him. now he likes this girl and she likes him. they call each other everyday but they always fight and they're not even going out yet. then he comes back to me for advice about it and i don't know what to say. i want him so bad, he's so sweet and caring and when his "non-girlfriend" isn't around i always feel this spark between us but im not sure if he feels it too. he was going to ask this girl out because things were going good for a while but now they're fighting again and he's asking for advice again. he's always so stressed out because of this and he always looks depressed. i want to show him that there's something better (me) but i don't know how he'll react and i don't know exactly what to say. any advice? im open to about anything.
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It's always hard to figure out when to tell someone you like them, you are always wondering if he feels the same way, or if he doesn't, and that would break your heart..or things could start to get awkward between the both of you. I think that you should continue to be there for him, and maybe find little ways to show him that you have feelings for him...tell him you care about him, and will always be there for him. guys don't like to be pushed too much, so falling back on that one person who makes him feel good and relaxed is a good start. Right now he's going through some difficult relationship problems, so maybe telling him now would overwhelm him and he might not know what to think. If things are meant to happen between you too, they will. You seem like a great friend, so keep going with that. Let things fall into place as you go, you will know when its right to put your feelings out there. You already are, so don't worry about that. Don't be afraid to take those risks in life. If he is someone you truly want to be with, and need to find that out, than you owe it too yourself to find that out. Life is about learning and growing from the decisions that you choose to make. It might not always turn out the way you would like, but that only means something better is coming, so you learn and move on. When you feel it is the right time, and there isn't so much going on with other girlfriends and emotions, then take that chance and find that out, you will never know unless you put yourself out there...I hope this helps. If you need anything else, feel free to ask.
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You have to make your move before he asks her to be his girlfriend.
Trust me, by doing this, it will be helping yourself, as well as him. Because you obviously really care for him and want nothing bad to happen to him, because you feel bad for him that he's in that kind of a "relationship".
I think right now he thinks of you as more of a friend because he keeps asking you for advice and such, but if you don't want to be viewed as a friend, than I would make a move right now, or else you are just going to have to keep giving him advice about what to do in his "relationship" that is obviously going nowhere but downhill.
By asking him out, you will help him from suffering through a rocky relationship with that girl, because he obviously needs you to help him through his current relationship, which means that he thinks highly of you and knows that you care about him. Which is excellent, considering that the chances of him starting a relationship with you are very high because of your caring nature.
I would move in ASAP, or you can start calling yourself his lifetime advice giver instead of his girlfriend...
If you need anymore help, just ask. :)
-Mariah-
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