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i don't want to be greedy?
hey. i have a bit of an interesting situation going on. i hadn't heard from my boyfriend in a couple of days, so i was a little worried. but, he texted me saying that he was very sorry, it was just that his grandmother was in the hospital and he was having a hard time and kind of went into a coop, which is something he tends to do when he worries, he hides in his shell. but, just yesturday, i was in the hospital, and i had spent the night before there with the IV, and I was feeling so bad because I hadn't heard from him and I didn't want to call him crying about me being there either. but, i don't want to sound greedy by telling him that he has to communicate with me, because he didn't know that I was in the hospital too, and I felt really bad in that hospital, not having heard from him, or him having been there, you know what I mean? but, i feel really bad for the grandmother, because she's so sweet, and I don't want to sound greedy, like I'm the only one who should have his attention. I just feel like I was put to the side, which I know he didn't mean to do, I really don't want a lecture on that right now. but, i know how he gets with this. he doesn't deal with these types of things well. i'm even thinking it's better if he were to find out through someone else about the hospital, instead of me, you know? can anyone give me some advice here?
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This is your boyfriend right? What do you need him for? If he can't be there when you need him, why is he around? Communication is the only way a relationship can survive. It brings the two of you closer together. it's what make the relationship so intimate. I understand we all have different ways of dealing with stress, but you can use this event to teach him how you want to be treated and how to handle stress more effectively. It is appropriate to tell him that when things get too stressful that he should let you know that he is stressed out and will talk to you later about it. Let him know that it hurts you when he leaves you out of his life. You have that right. If this is your boyfriend you have the right to depend on him, so calling him is okay. Whine if you want to; you have that right.
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Guys can tend to curl up in a ball in a sticky situation, trust me, i know, im a guy.
Relationships work two ways, and it takes two to Tango. this is true of any relationship. NO matter what happens communication is a key part to the relationship, he has to communicate with you, and you must communicate with him.
What to do, begin communication. Family comes first in anything, before you, and before his friends. You need to show him that you are supportive. bad things happen when we as men bottle up our emotions as we do tend to do.
When you show that you have to communicate for the relationship's survival, you are saying that you want the relationship to last forever. Eventually he will open up to you, and problems such as these merely become speed bumps in the road.
You weren't thrown aside as much as you feel that way. In a problematic situation that hits close to home, we hide instead of face our problems. which is why things like this are hard to deal with. which is where you come in. Show him your love, and he will do the same.
With this being said, you are the one that has to tell him that you were in the hospital, and while you may not have told him that you were there for his own protection, you must express to him why you didn't tell him. after he realizes the potential problems in the relationship, things will get better between you and your relationship will never fail
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I dont think he should hear from someone else.Its better if he hears it from you cuz if he hears it from someone else then he'll get mad at you for not telling him but you dont also want to call him right away. wait tell he calls you so you know he has been feeling better about his grandmother. Then after small talk say "I have to tell you something, but i dont want to put pressure on you or anything" and he'll say something and then you tell him. then tell him to not worry about you. Dont put so much pressure on him. Hope i helped
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