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should i confront him?
my boyfriend and i live in different states. we're both in college. we have eachothers myspace passwords, and a few months ago i logged into his myspace and there were all of these messages from this girl talking about these sexual things they did. he made up some reason for it n i eventually said ok i believe you(i never really believed him tho). he changed his password after that because he got mad that i read the message before he did. so he changes his password but i found out what it was and continued to log into his account without him knowing. i jus like to know hes faithful because im 100% faithful to him. he said they dont talk anymore. but the other day i logged in and there was a message from that girl! talking about how they went to the beach together! but he told me he went with his friends. my heart dropped. i have been so depressed ever since i read that. i cant tell him that i know about it because then he'll know i log into his account n know his password but i feel like hes cheating on me. we've been together for 3 years and we talk about living together and getting engaged..everything like that. im really scared i might lose everything, no matter what i do in this situation :[
what should i do?
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hey,
first off, print out all of the messages you found. that way, he wont be able to deny it.
you cannot let him walk all over you like this. he's obviously trying to hide this girl from you, which means he's trying to hide other things (like what they do, or how close they are.) long distance relationships are very difficult.. and this is what makes them so hard.
you were a nice person to take his word, even when you knew he was lying the first time around, but if you keep doing that, he'll just know he can step all over you without you doing anything.
you need to talk to him, prefferably in person, but if no possible, over the phone, about this. tell him you have been hearing about him doing things, and if he denies it, tell him about the messages.
things in relationships should be in the open. i have to say, though, if he ends up doing something like this again, or lying about things he's doing, it dosen't sound like a healthy relationship, and you may want to consider the engagement for a while..
just make sure he's actually doing something. if he just went to the beach with this girl, that's not too bad, and you shouldn't have to worry.
so, get yourself some reassurance, and then do the confrontations.
best of luck, and i hope you're alright,and that everything works out!!!
xoxo
kat!
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Girl you need to talk to him, he cant be hiding this kind of stuff from you. If he changed his password on you because you read his mail then it sounds like hes trying to hide her from you. Long distance relationships are soo hard and the best thing you can have to hold you guys together is *communication and *trust. Try talking to him calmly and ask him whats goin on, ask him in a way so he wont get mad or defensive. 3 years is way to long for him to be hiding things from you, or for you to feel like your loosing him. Tell him how you feel and ask him whats going on. If theres any way that you guys can see eachother and get together maybe on a weekend when your both free id say try and do that maybe that will help your relationship. It might be the stress of the distance thats making him that way....i hope things get better for you
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show him the message! confront him. cheating is a serious thing especially if you are getting engaged. trust is needed, especially if you plan to get married! women's intuition is strong so if you think he is cheating on you, you can't just let it slide by. you don't deserve that anyway. or maybe you could find out her # or something and call her and ask her who she is and tell her that youre getting married to that guy or something. hope i helped<3
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