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Highschool Drama
Ok how do I word this...Ok so last night I got into another fight with Eric. ...The third one this week. See lately, he's been telling me he hates himself and i deserve better than him. But then the next day he'll be like "Go Die XD" and its ridiculous. But he's really good friends with this guy, Mark. And Mark is an amazing guy. He's always there for me and my friends keep telling me he likes me and I might like him back...But if I stop being friends with eric..me and Mark will probably drift. And last night Eric blocked me from aim and I've been up all night watching prince of bel-air and eating straight from a tub of ice cream :/ I can't deal with this. I don't want to lose Mark and I really don't want to lose Eric either but its probably better if i do. WHAT DO I DO.
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If Eric is making you stress this way, get rid of him. But first, to make sure Mark likes you. Ask him out. Talk to him and tell him the truth about how Eric treats you and admit that you have feelings for him. If he aggrees with you and says he likes you, get rid of Eric. If your going out with Mark, you won't drift away from him even though you stop bieng friends with Eric. Follow your heart. If you like Mark, tell him. Hope this helps.
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My Hypothesis. while it may not be the greatest, it might just be able to help.
Based on what you said about Eric, it sounds like he is bi-polar. don't get mad yet, there is much to say.
Fights occur within relationships. this is the process of love. but if the fights are as you have stated, "Go die" then it is time to move apart.
It sounds to me, that what you are in the relationship with Eric for, is truly Mark. Have you ever talked to Mark about what to do with Eric? Mark, being Eric's best friend will have some influence upon Eric's thinking.
In doing this, You are increasing your relationship with Mark, while maintaining a relationship with Erik.
Put down the Ice-Cream. Despite how good it tastes, there are much more healthier ways to deal with stress.
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i was in this situation once and if you're not happy then break up with eric. but if you really value your friendship with mark, then talk to him about it. it's not your fault that you're not happy with his friend anymore, and he should understand that.
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From what you've said it sounds like the friendship you have with Eric is really unhealthy. I don't think it's beneficial to your emotional health to remain friends. But then, you're smart so you know that all ready.
If you're afraid of drifting away from Mark, why don't you talk to him? Don't drag him into the problems that you and Eric are having, but maybe you should let him know that you think the friendship you have with Eric is unhealthy and that maybe it's time to break away. Maybe you should also tell them that you value HIS friendship and you would really hate for whatever is happening between you and Eric to come between the two of you.
Mark will either stay in touch or drift away like you said. I'm hoping that he'll stick around... But if not, you're doing what's best for you. Please remember that. ;)
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