|
Do i tell him?
18/f
Okay, i've been seeing my boyfriend for a year now and i've found out that i'm pregnant. I know i want to keep the baby, i couldn't go through with an abortion. But in September he's going away to university. I know how much he wants to go and i don't want to spoil it for him or make him feel like he has to stay. Do i tell him now? Or do i wait until he's at university and then tell him? (He's going to be living quite far away when he goes, like four to five hours drive away if that helps)
Please help!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
i would talk to him about it
and tell him how you want him to go to college and stuff,
if he loves you he will understand, and he can see you on the weekends and stuff
it wouldnt spoil him, maybe it will make him happier :)
]
You've answered your own question:
"I've found out that I'm pregnant. I know I want to keep the baby. I couldn't go through with an abortion. But in September you're going away to school, and I know how much you want to go. I don't want to spoil that for you or make you feel like you have to stay."
Then it will be your turn to listen to what he has to say in response. Then an honest discussion of both of your feelings will follow...
Honoring the one-year commitment the two of you have had so far should warrant this kind of honesty and intimacy.
Best Wishes!
]
what i would do is tell him now. but then tell him that you dont want it to ruin his university thing. and if he says tht he wants you to have an abortion tell him how you feel and just stand up for your self
not the best but i hope it helped some
♥.Rachel
]
Hey, i think that you need to tell him - in a relationship honesty is always the best policy. Besides, he maybe hurt if you do not tell him and there maybe further complications in your relationship if you tell him after he goes, he may have trouble trusting you afterwards. The best thing you can do is tell him and hope for the best, tell him that you don't want this to affect his education but it's something that he needs to know.
I hope things work out well for you - good luck.
]
you should tell him now, whether you tell him now or tell him later, its still a responsibility for both of you. what can it hurt, if you tell him now? even if it stop's him from going, he'll have to except that things are about to change, and even if he still goes things will probably still work out for the best. :]
'klaa
]
I think you should tell him. There are a few reasons:
1. He may want to know something like that- you never know.
2. He NEEDS to know- especially if its his child. Why keep that information from him?
3. Don't NOT tell him just because you don't want to ruin his dream- its ultimately his choice if he stays with you or if he goes to college- so don't feel like its YOU ruining HIS dream.
4. Its kind of lying to him if you don't tell him. Keeping secrets from a partner is horrible. The longer you keep the secret from him- the more he could be mad about it.
So I think you should tell him. Its your best option. =D
Good luck!
--Jack
(15/m)
]
More Questions: |